High School Reunions
What is it about high school reunions that some people care to attend and others could care less?
I am the chairperson for my 30th high school reunion and I wouldn't want to wish the job on anyone. I started out with 9 committee members and one by one they slowly bit the dust and I have 4 left. The reunion is in 3 weeks, and I cannot wait for it to be over. Out of a class of 550 people only 61 tickets have been sold so far.
So how do most people on this board feel about attending their high school reunions?
I didn't keep in touch with anyone from high school. I have never been to any of the reunions. Of course, our class clown was elected President of the class Senior year and it was a real joke. We never had a reunion until something like 13 years after graduation and by then I had just so moved on. I wasn't close with many DURING my school years to begin with, so the desire to attend a reunion was just never there.
A lot of people are busy or moved away from the area and don't have any remaining ties to the area.
I only attended jr and sr years at the high school I graduated from. I knew a lot of people from kindergarten, but had lost touch with them during the 4 yrs I attended Catholic school. Those interevening years were key and I didn't particularly like the people I shared classes with - they had become very 'affected'. I didn't really share classes with the people who had remained down to earth. I was actually closer to people in other grades (ie. friend from kindergarten and summer camp was a year behind me.). So, I had 0 interest in going to my high school reunion.
My cousin recently helped organize her 20th high school reunion. She had volunteered to help, but did most of the work. The chief organizer kept on screwing up and cutting the budget. My cousin really saved the day, but the 'chief' organizer didn't even thank yer. My cousin says she won't do it again, especially since very few of her friends attended.
I find that most people who truly enjoy attending their high school reunions are those who were 'big fishes' in the small pond (or at least were very active participants in various school activities and events) and who stayed in the immediate area. If you had a good high school experience and still have ties to the area, you're more inclined to attend if it's convenient.
I have never attended a high school reunion. Most of my best friends were a year younger than I anyway, plus I live in California but my high school is in Massachusetts. I might consider going to a 30th reunion, however, which would be in 2 years, if they have one, just out of curiosity. I believe they always hold it over Thanksgiving weekend, figuring that lots of people come into town to celebrate with their families, but for me, that has always been totally inconvenient.
Now, college is different. I've never attended one (it's in Connecticut) but I do have every intention of going to my 25th, which is next year.
I have to admit that a big part of me didn't want to attend anything because I was kind of embarrassed to have gained so much weight over the years. Plus, I went to a very prestigious university and many of my classmates have gone on to some serious accomplishments. I'm not embarrassed about where I am in life or what I have done but in comparison, well, you get the drift. Anyhow, I no longer feel that way, but for years, that would have bothered me. I have come to realize that prestige and high achievement do not equate with personal happiness, and since I feel like a very happy and grateful human being these days, that's all that really matters to me.
As for the weight, now I weigh about what I did then and I'm in much better physical condition than I was even then thanks to the weight training and general exercise routine I maintain. I know that sounds really childish and petty but there you have it, that's how I felt.
Now, my business partner, on the other hand, cannot wait to attend her 30th high school reunion in October. She talks about it all the time! She has helped with the planning (even though it's in Rhode Island and she lives in California). She was a lot closer to those people than I ever was to my class.
I did not like my high school. I do not attend any reunions. A couple of friend I have from HS - I keep in touch with them anyway.
OTOH, I have very fond memories from my school back in Russia (left at age 12). If I were visiting during a reunion, I'd certainly go.
I've attended one high school reunion-- my ten year-- but my husband and I only stayed for about 45 minutes. The nice people were still nice, the jerks were still jerks, and the people I most wanted to see weren't there.
My dad's high school does a really cool thing. They have all of their reunions on homecoming weekend every year. They rent out this big hotel, and the years that are having "biggies"-- 10, 20, 40, etc. get the big party rooms. The off-years share the smaller party rooms. The coolest thing about that is that people can visit with people who were their friends, but weren't necessarily in their grade. Also, nearly everyone attends the homecoming parade and game-- which is good for the current high school kids. If my school were more like that, I'd be more likely to attend.