I'm at work and can't take the time to hunt, but I'm thinking of checking Sandhu's programs. (The ones where he stays on his feet.) He has such deep training in ballet and other dance, and I can't remember offhand the details of his skates, but I'll bet he uses his arms the way they should be used.
I remember enjoying Browning in this regard (as in every other regard). He has an unfussy simplicity, and with his dance training, he combines grace with "guy-ness" in an especially convincing and appealing way.
Of course John Curry and Robin Cousins use arms splendidly. In fact, the first discussion of arms on male skaters that I remember is Dick Button comparing Cousins to Jan Hoffman, who as Button said used windmill arms.
To me, a very good skater uses arms for balance and at the same time using them as though not needing them for balance. Does that make sense? In other words, there's not an urgency or a precariousness about arm use.
If it's anything like ballet - and I'm sure it is - then I would imagine it's more like a very good skater doesn't have to use his/her arms for balance. Kind of what Janetfan was getting at by quoting Janet Lynn. If you can do all sorts of difficult moves without using your arms than it frees you to use your arms for choreo and emphasis, instead of balance.