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    Prayer request-next door neighbor missing-foul play

    I know there are believers here of all stripes and Christians who pray- I only post at a few religious spots, but you never know who reads here and how "connected" - I just prayed at a Basilica in Boston and am spreading word for prayer. The story- my mum's next door neighbor (I'm living two places sort of my apt and family home) is missing. They moved in last summer- a family who had it all, health, wealth, lovely home, three boys. March 14, their 19 year old - autistic and diabetic disappeared. His car just showed up in Rhode island. We never met him but we are most distressed and the family suspects he is dead. It's been on news/papers etc. handsome young man who apparently trusted a couple he should not have. Mother suspects he is dead (he's insulin dependent) and he never spent a night away from home. We, our neighbors etc are all praying they will find the body. His most loving mother feels he is dead, and the couple suspected of murder are being extradicted from New York state last we read. I ask for any prayer warriors here to remember this boy and to storm heaven and pass it on that he come home for closure. My heart breaks. They are lovely people what little I know. May God help them, and hear the prayers. They have much support but this is devastating as you can imagine. Thank you anyone who prays for this resolution.

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    I hope they find him safe and well.

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    What a heart-wrenching story. It doesn't sound as if things could end well, but at least I hope that the boy is found.

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    Please pray, those who have viewed, he has not been found yet, though the suspected murderers are in town and in jail. His first name is Joseph, a handsome, sweet boy who had a girlfriend of two years. He went to show his car for sale (on Craigslist) and then he became a victim of their evil. God rest his poor soul. I don't know how his parents are coping. I never met him, just his dad, and I'm thinking of him all the time, asking God to please bring him home. :(((((

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    It is more than two weeks, we know Joseph is dead, as he is insuin dependent, and I was wrong, the car is still missing. Last seen in Rhode Island, the car is a silver 2003 Cadillac Seville. The suspected murderers are being extradited from New York. Joseph is from Massachusetts. They believe the car is in Rhode Island somewhere, and the suspicion the 19 year old boy is in it. This is beyond horrible for this family. Prayer people, keep praying Joseph returns home for burial so impt. to his family.

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    Actions like this are beyond understanding. I hope and pray the family can get some sense of comfort.

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    My mother just called. It was on the news today that a body suspected to be Joseph was found in a storage container by police digs in Providence, R.I. Not far from the apt of his suspected murderers who I was told are in jaill with a 1 million dollar bail. Both had criminal histories, the female a "professional" escort. Yes, the oldest profession. The car was not found. He disappeared from a motel where he met these two to show his car.

    Today, a life sized statue of St Joseph was brought by a family freind to his uncle's bakery. Joseph was found a few hours later. Having seen a case where a girl was just found after 23 years, I know his family ist hanking St Joseph for his return and the end to the search. It does indeed put things in perspective. I am glad I never met him beause I did not sleep last night and this would have been so awful for me had I known him.I am glad I went to the Basilica for prayer when I heard. Many prayersd have been answered, but sadly, no miracle that he was maybe being kept for ransom or some such thing. I was hoping still for a miracle. He was very loved by a huge family in his brief, but sweet life. I do not understand this world. May God comfort this family. Another cautionary tale about being careful with Craigslist and internet meetings. Using that to hire, I am quite disturbed and frightened all in all. He must be an angel in heaven, such a sweet photo of him. I know the DA here and these two will spend life in prison, I suspect. :(((((( A tragedy all around. WHY?

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    I saw the father in the yard. I brought Easter bunnies to the three kids across the street, and then saw the Dad of the slain boy in the backyard. He was with his dog who barks at everyone. He did not look up, but I felt I must acknowledge him. I was so sincere, cruished for them and couldn't find a right word. I have never tried to console then father of a murder victim. His wife beckoned him in-never met her and my mother and neighbor plan to go to calling hours. I am quite ill, suffer greatly and thus am easy to cry for anyone (even Alissa!-) with real pain -former social worker type here. I ended up writing out the Mass card with another note, and left the flowers I had bought to cheer up my apt. I ended up feeling stupid, inadequate and ignored. I know they are in hell. Then I cried because I just couldn't say anything to help. Of course I cried, as my best eforts can't help in a situation like this

    Should I attend the wake of someone I don't know? What is best to say? I have gone to the wake of my 16 year old cousin who died in drunk driving accident, but I was family, younger, not so affected as I had a wall around me, and I seemed to know words were not going to help. Yesterday I went on trying and failed miserably. Looks like I will have to go as funeral is out. What would anyone say? Anyone have this happen to them? Advice for words appreciated. I just feel so inadequate and thus blather on.

    What is the appropriate thing to say? I have written my thoughts but feel I sucked at that to. So hard.

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    What a sad ending to the situation.

    Skateluvr, for what it's worth, I think you did the right thing going over there. One terrible effect of a bereavement is that the survivors feel as if they are alone in the universe. They may not be able to acknowledge you in any eloquent way, but I think that a gesture like yours does matter, because it means that someone paid attention. The only words I've ever thought of that seem suitable are "I'm so sorry" or some variant thereof. You can't even say "I'm sure he's in Heaven now." For some people that's very comforting, but for others it's like salt in the wound--and the trick is that you don't know which people are which.

    I think that after a crime like this, community members often go to the wake, because everyone feels touched by such a horrible rip in the social fabric, especially if the victim is a young person. If you feel you must go, take a look in the funeral home, and maybe ask one of the attendants there whether the family would mind if a stranger (you) pays her respects. You don't even have to speak to anyone, just hang out for a few minutes and leave. If a relative speaks to you, you can express your sympathy. You don't have to be eloquent. Who can be at such an awful moment? If you start to cry, you don't even have to call attention to it.

    As for whether you'll be remembered as some kind of idiot, I think it's unlikely. The truth is that people in such a moment don't remember much detail at all. What they do remember is that they didn't have to go through it alone.

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    Thanks for responding Olympia, very kind of you. I always thought there would not be a wake when foul play was involved. It seems to much to ask of family to stand thee and talk to the most well meaning strangers. The father said the Mass is at my former church but I see no obituary for him after searching the paper. Maybe tomorrow there will be an obit or details. The same funeral home that we go to is the one and I have known the owner since kindergarten.

    I am thinking I have written two cards and dropped off flowers. That will have to be enough, as I cannot attend an am funeral and I don't think it matters, as you say, they are far from alone...big family...and I would think calling hours would be family only. That is what I'd do but I am reclusive. Well, I did my best and beyond with my heart. I guess There is just not much left to say. I said I knew he would be forever an angel in heaven, but I don't think that matters. They have lost their boy in an awful way. I just cannot imagine what other than drug crazed stupidity caused this man to do this. He has a horrible history, I am sure. When the judge set bail a 1 million dollars, the family applauded. This heatless man of 20 years actually gave them the finger through his handcuffs. I can guess this is an abused man who was once a good child and life has been awful. I guess so much will come out but the woman seemed distraught, crying, feelings while the pure evil in this young guy's face shocked me. I do not watch all these crime dramas or true stories-I avoid these-this city is safe basically but all the well heeled people in my former parrish must be saying we upper class white people are not safe. It is not a folksy neighborhood, so I am glad they have big Italian family.

    I always want to help and when I can't I feel inadequate. Well, time to give me a break. I am so relieved they found him. Others have not been so 'fortunate.'

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    This is so tragic. You did the right, humane thing in this situation.

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