I find it cruel, imo.
I find it cruel, imo.
When I spent some time at grad school in the U.K. years ago, I noticed a lovely custom they had at dances. A group of girls would stand in a cluster, "dancing." (Most dances of the rock era are just standing around and gyrating, not holding on to anyone, so who needs a partner anyway?) If a guy wanted to dance with someone, he would just show up and ask, or tap the girl on the shoulder. So you didn't spend your time sitting on the sidelines, holding up the wall as we say here. Why does everyone have to show up at a school dance in pairs? Is the object of a prom to pair kids up? I doubt any adult (parent or teacher) would say that that is the goal of prom—especially at a Catholic school like the one in this article. So why discourage girls who just want to share in this important school experience, with the dress and the music and all?
The mention of the Mormon prom jibes with an article I read sometime ago. It told about a group of traditionally raised American Muslim girls whose families didn't want them attending their school prom because it would involve dancing with non-related males. The girls yearned to take part in a prom--not to have boyfriends, but to choose a dress and plan the gym decorations and hear music over the sound system. They resolved the situation by having an all-girl prom. They got to do everything: dance, dress, put up theme decorations. The newspaper photograph respectfully showed just a girl's hand reaching to put down her handbag, which rested on a chair at the side of the room. This article was awhile ago, and if I remember it, you can imagine that the girls involved in the prom also remember the event with enjoyment. Shouldn't a girl who has no boyfriend (for whatever reason--too shy, just broke up, strict religious family) get the same chance to build memories as the prom queen, the head cheerleader, and the girl who found Mr. Right all the way back in the tenth grade?
Last edited by Olympia; 05-07-2012 at 03:20 PM.
Last edited by Mathman; 05-07-2012 at 04:17 PM.
I'm curious as the the exact wording of 'the rule'. Is it ok to go with another female student - just friends? After all, a lot of people go to prom as just friends.
I think it's a shame. It wasn't as though she was planning to attend the promo alone - her date backed out. Talk about a double whammie. If her prom date had gotten sick at the last moment and she went without him, would they have turned her away at the door? If that's the case, then no one should buy their prom tickets in advance. Was this policy clearly stated and was the student body informed before prom tickets were sold?
If she's comfortable enough with going stag, then I don't see why it's a problem for the administration. She probably just wants to be able to go hang out with her other friends. What's the 'danger' in going to prom dateless?