This is exactly what worries me about Gracie. Everyone is saying she has time, she'll learn how to compete. But as you point out, Kwanatic, the fact is not everyone can or does learn this skill. I mean, when you think about great champions--Kim, Asada, Kwan, Yamaguchi, Lipinski, Witt, Yagudin, Plushenko, Stojko--was there ever a time when those champions DIDN'T know how to compete? Was there ever a time when they were routinely crumbling under pressure and falling apart in their programs? Yeah, it happened to all of them once in a while (Kwan 1997 Nationals, Kim 2009 Skate America). But those times were the exception, not the rule. You look at those skaters, and nearly all of them were winning national/world medals very, very early in their careers.
Of course, there are exceptions to this. Carolina Kostner, Akiko Suzuki, Ashley Wagner. These are skaters who really only learned to compete in their 20s. But again, they are exceptions. In many cases, it seems like great champions are just born knowing how to compete--that's part of what makes them great. And I don't know if Gracie has that quality or not.