For the record, I think we also need to accept female skaters exactly as they are, regardless of the extent to which they adhere to traditional gender stereotypes. The original post that I replied to was talking about male skaters, which is why I focused on that in my response. I'm bothered when female skaters are blasted for being too feminine AND for not being feminine enough. Both are incredibly problematic.But why is anything too feminine taken to task so often among skating fans? Female skaters who skate to music perceived as feminine, wear their hair certain ways, wear costumes perceived as too feminine are often derided as "pretty princesses" or worse--both words spelled with "w"s. Why can we not accept the women for who they are as well? In the case of Gracie Gold, her off ice persona comes off as pretty girly-girl. Perhaps her look on ice is what she prefers. Why is that not okay?
Didn't mean to imply this at all. I was trying to be very careful in my language because I didn't want to come across as accusatory to drivingmissdaisy, which is why I chose "we" and "us" instead of "you", but obviously "us all" ended up being misleading and I apologize. That being said, speaking as a feminist, I think we can always benefit from thinking about our own responses and the responses of others in respectful ways.I'm not sure if you were doing that, Hyena. By "we" did you mean only yourself and drivingmissdaisy, since you had identified a point of agreement between you? It was the "Just something for us all to think about" that made me wonder if you meant that I and everyone else reading this thread feels exactly the same.
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