Hi everyone,
I need some help/wisdom. My daughter is 14 and at no-test level. She started late, age 11, but fell in love with skating. She skates with a great group of supportive girls who are positive influences. We love her coach and she mainly does showcase events and her coach does mini production groups which is my daughter's favorite.
The problem is she continues to place last in her solo events. Last year we chalked it up to her first year competing USFSA and a learning experience, she was such a trooper about it. Yesterday was her first comp of the season and she placed 7/8 and 3/3 for her solos. She (and I) were so upset. We didn't expect first, but a middle placement would've been realistic and satisfying. The 3/3 really upset me because given the competitors it really seemed unfair. She worked really hard, her programs were clean and she had way more facial use than the others (it being showcase and all). To rub more salt in the wound the other two girls were much younger, so she felt embarrassed.
Her coach and the other moms were shocked and thought she did amazing.
Anyhow, my dilemma is when do you know to pull back? The hours practicing and giving up some social events plus the cost and time on my part, to feel like you had an awesome skate, only to have someone else say you were the worst?
To be on the mini-prod team she has to keep up and acquire more skills including an axel. I'm sure she doesn't want to stop that, but is it worth it to keep competing? Have any of you gone through this and seen some success on the other end? Any thought, wisdom, advice is greatly appreciated.
I need some help/wisdom. My daughter is 14 and at no-test level. She started late, age 11, but fell in love with skating. She skates with a great group of supportive girls who are positive influences. We love her coach and she mainly does showcase events and her coach does mini production groups which is my daughter's favorite.
The problem is she continues to place last in her solo events. Last year we chalked it up to her first year competing USFSA and a learning experience, she was such a trooper about it. Yesterday was her first comp of the season and she placed 7/8 and 3/3 for her solos. She (and I) were so upset. We didn't expect first, but a middle placement would've been realistic and satisfying. The 3/3 really upset me because given the competitors it really seemed unfair. She worked really hard, her programs were clean and she had way more facial use than the others (it being showcase and all). To rub more salt in the wound the other two girls were much younger, so she felt embarrassed.
Her coach and the other moms were shocked and thought she did amazing.
Anyhow, my dilemma is when do you know to pull back? The hours practicing and giving up some social events plus the cost and time on my part, to feel like you had an awesome skate, only to have someone else say you were the worst?
To be on the mini-prod team she has to keep up and acquire more skills including an axel. I'm sure she doesn't want to stop that, but is it worth it to keep competing? Have any of you gone through this and seen some success on the other end? Any thought, wisdom, advice is greatly appreciated.