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- Dec 21, 2014
I was hoping for some input from the collective wisdom of this community- thank you in advance!
I am an adult skater (almost 30 ) who returned to the sport 3 years ago. I initially took an adult group class and after 4 months started private lessons with the coach who taught the class. I have taken lessons from her ever since, now only one time per week but at one point took two lessons per week from her (she is now only at my current rink once a week in the morning). At a certain point a year and a half ago I started working every week with another coach on MITF which helped a lot and then several months ago started taking a second freestyle lesson from this second coach (working with the second coach was all okayed with my first coach). Right now I take 3 lessons per week, one with my initial coach (a freestyle lesson) and two from the second coach (one on MITF and one freestyle).
For the better part of this year I have been feeling like I no longer get as much out of my lessons with my first coach. Since I started taking lessons with the second coach I have made significant progress in multiple areas (both in learning new elements and correcting bad technique), I think in large part because the second coach is much more technical which helps me more.
The second part of the situation that is challenging is that my initial/first coach has become a friend. While I am getting to the point where I will no longer want to take lessons with this coach, I also do not want to hurt this persons feelings. If money was not a concern I would probably keep taking lessons from her just to avoid the situation but as lessons here are $35 per half hour- $140 a month is a lot of money. There are several other issues I have with this coach but all of those things I could talk through and the main issue is that I feel like I'm not making progress anymore. My goals have also evolved and are more technical/competitive than they were 3 years ago.
Unfortunately, no matter which way I look at this situation, I am going to have to have an uncomfortable conversation. I don't want to hurt my first coaches feelings and I don't want to create any awkwardness between either of my current coaches. I know these situations are not abnormal but as someone who actively avoids conflict I'm at a loss with how to approach the situation.
I am an adult skater (almost 30 ) who returned to the sport 3 years ago. I initially took an adult group class and after 4 months started private lessons with the coach who taught the class. I have taken lessons from her ever since, now only one time per week but at one point took two lessons per week from her (she is now only at my current rink once a week in the morning). At a certain point a year and a half ago I started working every week with another coach on MITF which helped a lot and then several months ago started taking a second freestyle lesson from this second coach (working with the second coach was all okayed with my first coach). Right now I take 3 lessons per week, one with my initial coach (a freestyle lesson) and two from the second coach (one on MITF and one freestyle).
For the better part of this year I have been feeling like I no longer get as much out of my lessons with my first coach. Since I started taking lessons with the second coach I have made significant progress in multiple areas (both in learning new elements and correcting bad technique), I think in large part because the second coach is much more technical which helps me more.
The second part of the situation that is challenging is that my initial/first coach has become a friend. While I am getting to the point where I will no longer want to take lessons with this coach, I also do not want to hurt this persons feelings. If money was not a concern I would probably keep taking lessons from her just to avoid the situation but as lessons here are $35 per half hour- $140 a month is a lot of money. There are several other issues I have with this coach but all of those things I could talk through and the main issue is that I feel like I'm not making progress anymore. My goals have also evolved and are more technical/competitive than they were 3 years ago.
Unfortunately, no matter which way I look at this situation, I am going to have to have an uncomfortable conversation. I don't want to hurt my first coaches feelings and I don't want to create any awkwardness between either of my current coaches. I know these situations are not abnormal but as someone who actively avoids conflict I'm at a loss with how to approach the situation.