uh.. it's a shame.. my family makes me want to wish i was never born sometimes. anybody have terrible things to say too? my 17 year old sister got pregnant.. and she's not married..the father is a boyfriend..about 21 i hear. what is it about teen sex and pregnancy these days? i know of so many.. teens like to experiment a lot now..with drugs, sex, drinking, partying... is it no wonder our family structure is disintegrating? some parents should never have been parents.. they don't take marriage or their parenting responsibilities seriously anymore. many parents now either abuse their kids or give them too much freedom with their peers these days.. there has to be better education and council for teenagers.. and parents better able to deal with this changing society. what is the problem? even my sister-in-law got pregnant for the first time when she was 14. my father is often a mean drunk and i believe brought over a prostitue once.. i saw some nasty photos of her..uh..let's say, about as triple x rated as they get. and he doesn't even try to hide the porn magazines lying around the house..the ones he subscribes to. whenever i see him drunk now..i scram real fast! i learned the hard way not to mess with him in this state. god, it was a lesson i'll never forget. my mom once told me, "it was a mistake that you were born." she was never affectionate in the least. she once pointed a loaded gun at me when she was pregnant with my sister. i had to duck behind my bed just in the nick of time. she also abuses her pets..much like her 2nd husband did. i'll never forget her chaining some of her dogs up and throwing them slop to eat once a day when i was little..or the time she decided to take matters into her own hands..and shoot her cat that she learned had somehow gotten one of its legs amputated. (i guess she figured it wouldn't live anymore and decided to try and kill her before taking her to the vet. stupid thing to do, eh?) my brother is like this too..cruel and not affectionate..mean. he threatened to punch me recently! one of my cousins is sitting in jail now for plowing into an old lady while he was driving under the influence i think. one of my uncles had to go to detox for a spell. he cussed his wife out something fierce on the answering machine when she didn't pick him up after he was discharged. turns out, she had died in her bed and had been lying there for days before the dog escaped through the window. i vividly recall how my grandfather (now dead from stomach cancer), who got so pissed off at my wild antics i believe, said, "you'll never amount to nothing in your life kid." my grandmother immediately defended me. i was confused and hurt by the mean remark from him. i didn't understand it then... or the continual chain smoking of my poor granny (died from emphysema). thank god i don't deal with the lot of them anymore. there is a disease in the family.. a disease that never could disguise itself for long.. or should i say, "multiple diseases." i have divorced myself from that little by little. and oh, has it taken me a long time to do it. and none too soon.
i guess the recent news of my sister's pregnancy got me to reflect a bit on this issue... any thoughts about the issue of teen pregnancy, divorce.. family problems.. and what to do about it, if any? i need some advice.. i feel so down now.. the typical 'blues' that come and go in my mind often i suppose... i just felt like letting it go... to release this tension and sadness a bit..so i started the thread.