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Because the overwhelming probability is that the accusations are true, both in this specific case and regarding sexual abuse accusations overall. According to TSL, there were rumours a police report was likely to come out soon with regard to Coughlin.
Also: your experience with a false accusation does not mean it’s okay to start off-loading what comes across as responsibility for suicide onto an abuser’s victims. My abuser taught me everything was my responsibility, and that if I wanted to stay alive, I would make him happy. When I began to make accusations against him, I lived in fear he would commit suicide if they became public — but that he’d commit suicide by first killing me. The amount of time and energy I spent in fear of his mental state and trying to alter it to evade abuse is time and energy I will never have back. Neither will Coughlin’s victims. And the way some people (not necessarily you, but it’s becoming a trend on social media) have been quick to say people have blood on their hands or are responsible for his decision — and it was, ultimately, his and only his decision — to commit suicide... I just do not have it in me to explain how abusive that is.
I am so sorry you had to deal with such abuse. I was simply stating both sides and I am sorry if that came across as taking John's side over the victims. Perhaps my experience did shape the way I worded things.