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Ekaterina Alexandrovskaya passes away at 20

Alex D

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This is such terrible news, I had to let it sit for 2 days before commenting and I am still not sure what to say.

When I was still writing about figure skating, I went to lot´s of events, where I met skaters and coaches and at two or three I believe, Katia did compete. It was when she was already with Harley and we spoke a bit how she was first into singles and later decided to go pairs with the Aussie, on Mozers advice. She had two other partners before, but with Harley she found a match.
What I took from her words and appearance, she was happy to have found her place, she tried long and hard for her dream of becoming a sports professional and was on a really good way to it. You don´t invest so much time into something, if it doesn´t mean the world to you and from self experience I know how hard it can be if your told "no more".

While as an adult you will think "cmon, there is so much more to do", as a young person there is simply put nothing left in such a moment. At this point you don´t realize that you have people who love you, that you have other opportunities and a whole life in front of you, you only see that one thing that is no longer there.

Katia did put everything she had on the ice, you could see it when she was skating or in practice. This wasn´t a part time job for her, it was much more and quite often are those individuals the most vulnerable if that one thing goes away from them. Friends, daily routine, but also the traveling just stops and all of a sudden you have more time a day, than in a whole year before. This is when the darkness starts crawling in and sadly, too many can´t find the light again. It can hit everyone and it´s not the fault of anyone!

This process is almost impossible to see for friends and family, on the outside you will put on a mask, but inside your smile starts to decay. Katia is one of several athletes in the past few years who died young, out of nowhere and the majority of people will say "but why?" and the answer will always be, because the smile had left their eyes.

Thanks Katia for being with us, many of us loved your skating and will miss you, not only as an athlete but a wonderful person who has inspired many kids to pick up the skating boots and become a world class athlete, like you!

Condolences to her family and friends!
 

karne

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If anyone would like to help send flowers to Katia's funeral and assist her family with funeral costs, Greg Merriman (of O'Brien/Merriman) has started a fundraiser: https://www.gofundme.com/f/ekaterin...m=copy_link-tip&utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet

I would like to add this is being posted by all of Team Australia all over social media, so everyone can be sure it's real.

I hope some way, we can get some golden wattle there. It is the wrong time of year, but maybe...?

EDIT:

It's over $3000 in two hours.

And just in case it couldn't get any sadder, I just realised Harley and the other Team Australia skaters won't be able to go to the funeral. :cry:
 

Scott512

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I think we have to remember that, even as much as we love and follow these young people, we do so from a way aways, and are not really in a position to second-guess those closer and more directly involved in their lives. It's best and wisest - and kindest - to assume, without evidence to the contrary, that both Ekaterina and those around her, her team and sports mates, her family, her medical support, all of them did the very best they knew how to do. Sometimes, the very best can never be enough, and they are the ones who have to live with that, not us.

I wish with all my heart that there had been an answer to this girl's troubles and it could have saved her, and I am sure that everyone whose life she touched is now wondering if there was something, anything more or better that they could have done, but it's not outsiders' place to make that call. Let's just send thoughts and wishes for all of them, the ones whose names we know and the ones who we will never hear of.

Here here. Perfectly stated.
 

Scott512

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This is such terrible news, I had to let it sit for 2 days before commenting and I am still not sure what to say.

When I was still writing about figure skating, I went to lot´s of events, where I met skaters and coaches and at two or three I believe, Katia did compete. It was when she was already with Harley and we spoke a bit how she was first into singles and later decided to go pairs with the Aussie, on Mozers advice. She had two other partners before, but with Harley she found a match.
What I took from her words and appearance, she was happy to have found her place, she tried long and hard for her dream of becoming a sports professional and was on a really good way to it. You don´t invest so much time into something, if it doesn´t mean the world to you and from self experience I know how hard it can be if your told "no more".

While as an adult you will think "cmon, there is so much more to do", as a young person there is simply put nothing left in such a moment. At this point you don´t realize that you have people who love you, that you have other opportunities and a whole life in front of you, you only see that one thing that is no longer there.

Katia did put everything she had on the ice, you could see it when she was skating or in practice. This wasn´t a part time job for her, it was much more and quite often are those individuals the most vulnerable if that one thing goes away from them. Friends, daily routine, but also the traveling just stops and all of a sudden you have more time a day, than in a whole year before. This is when the darkness starts crawling in and sadly, too many can´t find the light again. It can hit everyone and it´s not the fault of anyone!

This process is almost impossible to see for friends and family, on the outside you will put on a mask, but inside your smile starts to decay. Katia is one of several athletes in the past few years who died young, out of nowhere and the majority of people will say "but why?" and the answer will always be, because the smile had left their eyes.

Thanks Katia for being with us, many of us loved your skating and will miss you, not only as an athlete but a wonderful person who has inspired many kids to pick up the skating boots and become a world class athlete, like you!

Condolences to her family and friends!

Very interesting post and analysis.
Especially about putting on a mask and a smile in the eyes starts to decay. This happens to us humans. Tragic for Katia and her loved ones.
 

AshWagsFan

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So sad to hear. I’m still in shock, she was a lovely skater and girl. My greatest condolences to her family.:pray:
 

Finley

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It appears Zhenya has made a long instagram post in Russian about Katia's death. would anyone be willing to translate?

https://www.instagram.com/p/CC3SJDWKyEp/

An article from sports.ru -

https://www.sports.ru/figure-skating/1087140678.html

This was posted by a user on reddit. I hope it is okay to bring it here. These are very important words from Zhenya. We all need to listen. -

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"Two days have passed since Katya’s death. We weren't close friends but have known each other since age 3. She was a little younger than me. We were together just recently. When my friend lost a dog, and I posted the information on social media, Katya was one of the first to rush to help. Friends, let's remember that depression is a disease that has to be treated medically. If you see signs of this psychological disease in loved ones, find her a specialist. Don’t try cheering her up as it can only make the situation worse. If you notice symptoms in you personally, don’t keep it to yourself. If you don't have anyone to share that with, remember that there is always a helpline. Lastly, I want to call out those anonymous users who directed insults and humiliation to others. You don't know which state is the person to whom you address your anger. It's possible that the person is on the verge and your crappy words will be the last straw for her. If you don't think about others, think at least of yourself, because if something irreparable happens, it will be on your conscience. Take care of yourself and your loved ones. Don’t wait until it's too late.”

Sry neither Russian nor English is my first language. It’s not everything she said but the main points I think. Such a meaningful tribute to Katya.
 

labgoat

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Thank you for sharing. I am not sure if you are a doctor but I think we have to trust her doctors did what was best for Katia. In the end we will miss Katia and a life that counts. it is times like this I keep remembering there is more to winning Sometimes I wonder and what is the point of winning a gold in skating or running the fastest 100m or... I mean how does it really deal with the world's issues. Its nice. Yes, you worked hard but sometimes there is a bit of luck,politics and gamesmanship. This is not about blame. how do we instill a sense of value in all people. I struggle with depression and my faith has kept me from committing suicide. I was once quoted in the newspaper after it was revealed that I was the student who was abused at a bible college. I know I don't count in this world. I just hold on to my faith. I don't know what happened fully with Katia but I just wished she knows she was valued skating or no skating, gold, silver, bronze or nothing. Over the next while build up yourselves and others. You all are important and ditto for these skaters that we discuss. Keep safe and love yourselves and one another. Hopefully this tragedy can inspire us all to be better, do better and love better!

Today we recognize what a gift Katya was for us all. Let us honor her by supporting others who battle with issues of self worth. I believe all are gift of life - how we use that life, whether in bold and great deeds or small deeds and kindnesses is what makes a life. Thank you for sharing Skater Boy - i wish you the best as you deal with depression. Remember that you are more than what happened to you. You write your own destiny - choose one that makes your soul sing. I will be rooting for you.
 

sillylionlove29

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This is just so sad. I feel for her family and friends. Suicide, mental health and things like that are so hard. Without someone leaving a detailed note you never know why they did it. About three weeks ago, I spoke with my cousin on a Monday night. He seemed fine and his last words to me that evening never suggested that less then 48 hours later, on a Wednesday night, he would commit suicide. I say this because if you know someone is struggling, especially in these times, check on that person. Because sometimes if they say they are ok, they probably aren’t.

Sorry that is totally off topic. I’ll get off my soap box now.

I just can’t imagine what it’s like for skaters or anyone really who devotes their whole life to something and it ends and they aren’t prepared for the next chapter in their lives.

In fact, here’s a link to an article that talks about a documentary dealing with this topic. Gracie Gold ams Sasha Cohen are part of this documentary.

https://people.com/sports/olympic-athletes-dramatic-emptiness-games-weight-of-gold-trailer/


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FlyingFeather

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This is so horrible. Jesus made her for so much more. I'm sure her mother, family, and friends did all they could; it takes a miracle to break down the walls of feeling meaningless and self hate. My prayer is with everyone who loved her, but especially her poor mother.
 

Flying Feijoa

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Sorry that is totally off topic. I’ll get off my soap box now.

Not at all, it's very relevant. To the people who are left behind, such events might seem less surprising in retrospect - but then everything makes more sense in retrospect... I'm sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need to come to terms with it.
 

Skater Boy

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Today we recognize what a gift Katya was for us all. Let us honor her by supporting others who battle with issues of self worth. I believe all are gift of life - how we use that life, whether in bold and great deeds or small deeds and kindnesses is what makes a life. Thank you for sharing Skater Boy - i wish you the best as you deal with depression. Remember that you are more than what happened to you. You write your own destiny - choose one that makes your soul sing. I will be rooting for you.

I can't say I know what Katia went through or for that matter other abused and rape victims. I am not a superstar like Katia but I remember the media using me and saying how could I hold on to my faith, and now I know what a woman feels, and do I agree with the church leaders who thought I dressed like "sl_t". I lost my name (changed it) my career and dream of being a pastor to help people and my dad committed suicide while the rest of my family was left devastated. I remember my dad saying we need to keep on living and knowing the truth who we are. I am so sad for Katia and her family, friends. I am not God but it is now more than every I wish I could have made a difference in her life. Yes, i know I don't know her but my dream to be a pastor is to help people realize they are valued and love no matter how the world seems to make us feel less than able, less than worthy and less than loved often. I am guilty and have my opinons about skaters but really all these skaters/coaches and people we talke/write about are real lives with real feelings. So are you. I do not know what happened to Katia fully but we see in the "generic skating" world the challenges Medal or no medal everyone is valued but how do we get through to everyone. Maybe in death Katia is inspiring us all t be something more, to make a difference. Please do not feel sorry for me; Just like Black Lives Matter we need to do something. I just don't know what. I actually work or volunteer with Athletes who at the compettive university/college level. And I fear injury or that they put too much into the sport. This year Covid 19 killed the 2019 -20 year and it appears it has killed all collegiate sports at our major university. I just want the students to know that they are worthy and they are something on the team or not, playing the sport or not. It is odd because I try talking to them, praying for them, taking them out and doing random act of kindess - it is not the material deed but the thought. I am a giftaholic. In fact because I cannot travel due to covid 19 and see my family this summer I am goinng through all my" stuff" and giving stuff away. I wish I remember writing two skaters and sharing my testimony trying to inspire them to realize they are appreciated. I probably don't do well in encouraging the students I volunteer with (actually I work with my church's college and career group plus two other college group including one athlete group. I am somewhat ineffective in part because well in Society''s eyes i am a loser. I never got to preach or be a pastor. I use to sing which was a miracle but I loss my voice literally and figuratively. The church said I was a sl_t, a prostitute and deserved to be raped and that I would be raped again and again because I had a theatre backgrounda very high voice and wore prevocative clothing (trust me it was not provocative I have always been fat and kind of homely. But my heart is that we must instilla sense of self worth in our children, in all people or yes, they could end up like me. I have struggled to get a job and while I have had one for so many years I know everyone thinks I am useless. Anyways, what I am saying - we need build up the masses for they can do far greater good being encouraged than torn apart. My heart goes out to katia whatever happened.Katia you made a difference. You are valued. You COUNT!
 

karne

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The GoFundMe has reached just under $11,000 in less than 24 hours. The donation list reads like a who's who of Australian skating as well as many of the international skating family.

Greg posted an update that Katia's family is so grateful for the funds that will take the financial pressure of the funeral off them as well as all the flowers. Her funeral will be on 23 July.
 

karne

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Additional update: a celebration of Katia's life will be held in the Tasker Park outside the Canterbury Olympic Ice Rink (Katia and Harley's Australian training base) on Sunday 26 July at 10:00am. You can find more details on the Canterbury Olympic Ice Rink Facebook page.

I note the post says that the event will be live-streamed with information to come closer to the date; I will post anything I find out. I don't know if the stream will be available outside of Australia but I will post the details anyway.
 

ancientpeas

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As a lover of pairs skating and a fan I am deeply saddened by all this. My thoughts are with her family and friends. Such a sad situation and outcome. I have taken so long to comment because I don't really know what to say so I'll leave it at that.
 

2A3TMom

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Sadly, a note was found after this lovely young woman jumped to her death. This was her second attempt at suicide, as well. Earlier she had been diagnosed with epilepsy and I am sure that was part of the decision to step away from pairs skating when she did. It is a tragic story, and one can only wonder what Ekatarina was given for advice, support, and education. Maybe it's best we never know and just remember her for her talent, commitment, and beauty.
 

Skater Boy

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I keep thinking why why why? I can't do anything about the past. Tomorrow I go find a life I can make a difference. I just so feel for this y oung woman and her firends and family.
 

karne

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Update:



The Sydney Figure Skating Club are hosting a celebration of Katia's life this Sunday. Due to poor weather forecast and tightened 'rona restrictions, this will be live-streamed.



Date: Sunday 26 July 2020

Time: 10:00am AEST

Link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwiaNPj_A_2s_5npcaGHUww



As far as I know this will not be geoblocked.
 
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