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Life Is Being Difficult Right Now

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Jan 30, 2004
If I seem to disappear again, it's because life is a real downer right now.

Our 17 year old Jack Russell Terrier, Aggie, who has been our baby for over half our married life, is failing in health and we are probably going to have to intervene with the natural order of things and have her put to sleep. Her heart is remaining strong, but her mind is going fast. It's a lot of nuerological things going wrong due to her advanced age. She's forgetting how to eat, her natural sleep cycle is all messed up, she has bad balance, her paws fold under when she walks, etc. etc. This is a real bummer to my husband and I. We hoped so much she'd just go to sleep on her own, but it doesn't look like that is going to happen. If she makes it through this week, we will have to intervene this coming weekend.

On top of that, the job situation isn't looking good for my DH. He still could possibly stay with the same "job" under the new company. However, what he's seeing from the new company isn't good. There was a meeting and what was found out was very little. The representative from the new company seemed very hesitant about answering the questions the current union steward had. DH did find out the following:
2 or 3 vacation days will be taken away
all personals and sick days will be taken away
they wouldn't say if they were union or not
vague mention of benefits being a "50/50 deal"
applications will go through a temp agency
temp agency won't necessarily send the current employees to same warehouse under new company
if temp agency does send current employees to same warehouse under new company, it will be 90 days under the temp agency, then 90 days probabtion under the new company before a definite hire and before benefits kick in
it was not said if it would be 90 working days or 90 calendar days

On top of this, our rental property still has not passed inspection so that we can get paying tenants in

An aunt is having heart problems, an uncle has a spot on his lung, a cousin has lumps in her breast, a neice is having a breast lump biopsy, 2 nephews are struggling with depression

Does anybody have a deep hole I could hide in for about the next 5 years???

Any positive thoughts or vibes you could send our way would be appreciated.

If I'm absent, it's due to dealing with all this "stuff"...would love to use a stronger word here! Hopefully, things will make a turn for the better soon!

We got out of the house last night for a few hours because months ago we'd purchased tickets to see Meatloaf in concert and it felt so good to get out and throw myself into some rock'n roll! I will now go make a post giving a link to my photos and video....and then you may not see me for a while.
 
**********HUGS************ I love you guys and want you to know that i'm prayin' for ya! **much luv**
 
I'll be praying for you. Has he started looking for a different job? I sure would be. That one sure doesn't look good.
 
17 years is pretty good, have you considered taking a holistic/herbal approach?
Perhaps with acupuncture?
That sort of thing sometimes works when mainstream medicine doesn't, and is definitely better when it comes to illnesses/disorders that are chronic. low grade, or simply not curable.
This applies to your dog as well as you human family members.

As for depression, there's basically two kinds, one is caused by actual life events or circumstances (cured by changing them), the other by chemical imbalances in the brain (cured or at least lessened by drugs and/or herbal treatments).

Jobwise, would it be possible for your hubby to go into business for himself?
That way, he would no longer have to make someone else rich while putting up with their crap.....
 
Sending good vibes to NJSk8Fan

More good vibes

My thoughts are with you

My prayers are with you too

Take care!!

Dee
 
((((((((Patch))))))))) I'm so sorry you're going through such a rough time. I know firsthand what it's like to have life "gang up on you" all at once, and it's awful. :(

I hope everything turns out for the best, and that you are able to make a decision about your Aggie that you can be at peace with. You've had a lot of love and good times with her, I know, and that also means you don't want to see her suffer. It's a tough decision but I know you'll do what's best for Aggie, either way.

I'll keep all of you in my prayers, and more HUGE HUGS to you!
 
It all seems to come at the same time, doesn't it? I can only imagine the distress you must be feeling over your sweet dog--it's frustrating and heartbreaking to see these sweet creatures in distress. You can only follow your heart.

As for the job situation, it's been my experience that when one door closes, another one opens, although sometimes you have to kick the door open!

Many hugs and prayers to you. I can only tell you that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel, and things WILL get better.
 
Thank you one and all for all your supportive and kind words!

We have pretty much come to terms about the situation with Aggie. If nature or God doesn't intervene before Saturday morning then we will give her her last gift....a peaceful passing out of her mostly mental misery, the hardest gift but the kindest gift we can give her at this time.

The job situation...it's still in limbo as to what my husband will decide to do for sure. If someone could look in a crystal ball and see the perfect job out there waiting for him come August or September, a stint on unemployment and a rest for him would be wonderful, but that is just dreaming. Something will work out somehow.

The inspector comes to see our rental tomorrow morning....everybody hope for a passing inspection...then we can get tenants in and have rent coming in. Tenants are already waiting to get in, in fact, it's my nephew and his wife and her son. They have been doing a lot of little repairs and upgrades since the house went empty last August.

We are trying our best to see this all as a new beginning and that things just HAVE to go up from here!
 
I know from having to make the same decision w/my Puss Puss three years ago what you are going through w/Aggie. While it is the hardest decision to make, it is also the kindest if her quality of life is down to nil. Remember she will be waiting for you across The Rainbow Bridge for when the time for all of you to meet again comes.

Many (((((HUGS))))), prayers and thoughts headed your way from my neck of the woods.
 
praying the inspection goes well...

I forget - is aggie your only furbaby now?
 
Hope things work out, Patch. I sure understand things going badly. This winter was tough on my health and energy. Then, this week, I had to put my kitty to sleep. Two years ago, when my son was in Iraq, my 19 yr old cat had cancer and I had to have her put to sleep. I rescued an older cat from the pound to keep me company. I only had Callie for 2 years. She suddenly stopped eating and went downhill fast. Vet said she had a mass in her abdomen which was probably cancer. I figured nothing I could do would give her more quality time. She was 14. Obviously, it has been a very bad week. I feel kinda numb.

Hang in there.
 
((((((((NJSK8Fan))))))))))
I don't know what to say, other than hang in there, and much love and positive prayers being sent your way.
 
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