- Joined
- Jan 13, 2010
with her coach. 99% of the time, she is engaged, happy and totally cooperative of whatever her coach is teaching her. She is about to take her juvenile MIF and has her axel and 2 doubles and is working on her double loop now.
The other day, she got a bee in her bonnet that SHE wanted to work on double loop, but her coach, for good reason, wanted to work with her MIF test, as it is coming up fast.
Instead of communicating to him that she was looking forward to double loop and giving him a chance to say something like "once we do what we need to do on the MIF test, then we can do a few double loops before we are done", she digs in her heels and gets sullen and starts refusing to cooperate.
He ended up getting very aggravated with her and kicking her off the ice for that day.
I talked her down later at home, and I got her to come to the conclusion that she needed to call him and apologize for her behavior.
She is generally a really good kid, she adores skating, and her dad was so aggravated with her behavior he threatened to stop the lessons and cancel and test and she bawled.
But this is not the first time something like this has happened and it is a similar situation every single time.
How can I make her understand she needs to communicate respectfully, not dig in her heels and not cooperate. I know it is partly her age (she JUST turned 9), but still!
The other day, she got a bee in her bonnet that SHE wanted to work on double loop, but her coach, for good reason, wanted to work with her MIF test, as it is coming up fast.
Instead of communicating to him that she was looking forward to double loop and giving him a chance to say something like "once we do what we need to do on the MIF test, then we can do a few double loops before we are done", she digs in her heels and gets sullen and starts refusing to cooperate.
He ended up getting very aggravated with her and kicking her off the ice for that day.
I talked her down later at home, and I got her to come to the conclusion that she needed to call him and apologize for her behavior.
She is generally a really good kid, she adores skating, and her dad was so aggravated with her behavior he threatened to stop the lessons and cancel and test and she bawled.
But this is not the first time something like this has happened and it is a similar situation every single time.
How can I make her understand she needs to communicate respectfully, not dig in her heels and not cooperate. I know it is partly her age (she JUST turned 9), but still!