I agree with what you wrote here. Dave should have not said what he said, even if it was taken out of context and in a private forum behind a paywall. I do remember being touched by the tributes he posted about the skaters lost, so I think his heart is the right place, he just puts his foot in his mouth one too many times.
I am a longtime follower of TSL and often tune out when he's gotten too negative or toxic. I believe Dave cares deeply about the skating world, warts and all. I also think that he has railed against USFS repeatedly they were ready to take him down. It's a sad situation because he does get great guest co-hosts who have offered insights into the skating world - he has often had Alissa Czisny (and her husband Kurt), Meagan Duhamel, and Maya B (Russian journalist) and has done great interviews with skating luminaries from past and present.
I'm a longtime viewer of TSL interviews with skaters, coaches, choreographers. Those are fascinating.
I found his coverage of the Olympics/Valieva saga to be very informative in terms of helping me understand a very complicated situation and process.
Sometimes, the event coverage has been excellent, and I've enjoyed the recaps he has with prominent skaters. Those can be a "peek behind the curtain." The ones he does with the opera singer... no. I thought that was a little like what I imagine a beauty shop to be like.
The flat-out gossip sessions (These and Those?) are not for me, but some must enjoy them, or he wouldn't still be doing it. That said, I'm not offended that someone voices a different opinion of a skater or skating-involved personality than I do. I just think those episodes I've seen have been a waste of time.
He may have gotten carried away in the moment. He may have meant to advance a reasonable argument - there are some who ruthlessly dig for every penny they can gouge from parents who provide their children with opportunities. I am NOT NOT NOT saying that was the case in Wichita or with these coaching teams, but if you're a parent, you're not unfamiliar with the concept. Again, for emphasis, I am NOT saying that was the case here.
He may just be a terrible person, rather than a normal person who said a terrible thing. If it's the latter, then he needs to do what a normal person would do when we've made a mistake. Reflect on his choices, apologize to those he's hurt, and make a profound effort to be better in the future - that's the basis of redemption. As a man who has led an imperfect life, I testify that this is a critical process, whether TSL comes back or not.