That's why I used that word.

The "my way or the highway" system of coaching here appears to have fallen out of favor, and I can't say I'm sorry to see that go. The benefits did not outweigh the downsides, IMHO.
Which is not to say that some skaters are not persuaded into unfortunate costumes, particularly as juniors (Jason had a heavy ruffly Prince costume his last year in juniors. Accurate, but not flattering). But particularly if I were a skating parent, footing the skating bill, and saw a hideously out of place costume that my child despised, I would be like, hmmm, other coaches and costume designers will take my money. See ya later alligator.