DANCE
For a person not actually in the discipline, I'd chose Jeff Buttle. He has such ease of movement across the ice - such effortless flow. His edges are stellar, and he has amazing lilt and can utilize his whole body effortlessly. His knee bend is excellent, and he can interpret any piece of music and express it so well.
For an actual dancer, Gwendal Peizerat, but he better not expect me to lift him (though I'd try, but would look like a constpiated duck on crack while attempting to do so)
PAIRS
For a non-pairs skater, Brian Joubert. He seems to have a strong upper body and would be able to lift me effortlessly, yet he also has the technical aspect of it. Plus, people often become romantically involved with their pairs partners (and dance, another reason for Gwendal and Jeff)
For an actual pairs skater, Sergei Grinkov. Watching videos of him (cause I was a wee one back in his and Katia's competitive days) there was never any anxiety or worries watching him. I felt safe watching him and knew he wouldn't catch his blade on a lift, or anything like that - best pairs skater ever IMO.