I got what you were saying just fine, don't worry, I just happened to disagree with it.
I also do not know why it matters whether or not I personally have been in situations like that but rest assured, I have and it sure is a difficult time for everyone involved. Misdiagnoses can be a pain for entire families as they struggle to find out what really is going on and no one seems to be able to help. I am more than aware of that, thank you very much. But it does not change my main argument.
What her parents and her coaches should have decided to do is take it easier and NOT learn a quad when she was still recovering from whatever it was that was bothering her. When you are in pain for months and no doctor is able to diagnose you properly, you should not go out of your way and put your body under more physical stress and danger. A 14-year old cannot know that. Coaches and parents, however, can. I am just as informed as you are about this whole situation but I seriously doubt that any medical professional would tell a teenager to go and learn new elements that require a lot of falling when she has been in constant pain for months. Skating to not lose the feeling of it or doing "easier" elements to keep in shape ≠ trying to learn quads. Again, they could have waited in teaching her the quad until summer, let her heal and rest for a few months. See if the pain is still there and then judge. But they had to push for the quad in spring. Again: Why? If you seriously want to tell me that this was because of a doctor looking at her and telling her: "No, kid, go and jump a quad, you've been in pain for months but it's just sore muscles. You're alright, do whatever you want.", then that's fine but I will not be able to take it seriously. Like I've said, I know that sometimes finding the right diagnosis is hard. But in my personal experiences, medical professionals are VERY careful in what they tell their patients and if they were not absolutely sure about a possible injury bothering a literal child, they would not advise them to go out of their way and put their body into severely risky situations.
You are allowed to believe what you want, as am I. I am disappointed, that's all I can say. I wish Alena all the best for the future. May she find happiness as an Ice Dancer. That's certainly the most important.