I don't really know Mira, of course, but since we started getting into gender and sexuality issues on the Lund thread, I wanted to add my 2 cents here. People talk about gay men in figure skating all the time, but I've never seen anyone talking about what it's like for a woman who specifically does NOT want to present herself as desirable to men, for whatever reason. I was like Mira as a teenager, right down to how I dressed, and I was not neat, deliberately, because it was my way of deliberately not being "feminine"--there are all the stereotypes about how long women spend choosing clothes, getting dressed, styling hair, etc, and I didn't like those steretypes, and I wanted to live my life as someone who could do anything, no matter how rough, no matter how dirty or sweaty, and not care about what it did to my appearance(or actually liked what it did to my appearance.) People judged me for it then, and on occasions I tried to change, but each time I did it felt fake, like I was acting a role, and it was a distraction.
What if, instead of the makeup, makeover, etc, Mira got a really short haircut and wore pants on ice, if that's what she wants to do? Again, I don't know her, or what she really likes. People assume a lot when you're a woman--at least when you're a gay man there are signifyers that people pick up on, but women are assumed to be straight under almost all circumstances short of outright coming out, and then ostracized by both other women who are uncomfortable with it, and by men, who are equally uncomfortable with it, and there are so few women like that that it is hard to find people who relate to you and will even be friends, much less love you. (Speaking from my experience--sorry if this is overgeneralizing).
