I see as a main problem of such public statements as that interview that people use words like "abusing/abusive", "positive" or "negative" and many other terms without even defining it
Thank you, that's a good point. There are some examples of what abusive means, but you're right – we didn't go through definitions. We were actually planning to do so, but interview went a bit off-script. Also Kiira has a couple of great live-chat videos on Instagram where she talks with her guests about definitions and types of abuse, check out those.
Just right off my head what I've witnessed a lot and what I mean by abusive coaching methods:
- yelling (often literally screaming) at kids;
- hitting them with skate guards;
- name-calling skaters;
- denying attention / ignoring;
- humiliating in front of other kids;
- smoking and exhaling smoke right into the face of a skater (to show dominance, I suppose);
I personally know many young skaters who dropped out of figure skating because of these methods.
But it's important to keep in mind that those are just visual symptoms of the larger problem underneath – the whole approach and mentality behind coach-athlete relationship.
I don't even want to go into the list of prolific sexual abuse I know about and things like normalized butt-slapping and sexual jokes towards underage female kids (coming from male coaches, of course). And I'm afraid to think what I haven't seen yet, what's behind the curtains.
If I don't bring the names of coaches and skaters
Here I disagree, though. Names don't matter. Many names I keep in mind you probably have never even heard. This is systemic problem, and the goal is not to change the particular person, but to show a new generation that there is another way of doing it.
And another important clarification – this whole topic is not just about coaches (and I'm sorry if it looks like we're focusing solely on coaches). It's about the whole culture – parents, who see their children as a chance to become an Olympic parent and push hard on children, officials, who're focusing exclusively on the medal count (again, I'm more familiar with situation in post-soviet countries, your experience may vary), kids, who're raised in the environment that normalizes abuse (so they accept it and think it's normal), and, of course, coaches, who're under pressure to deliver results and don't have any organizations or examples around to learn from how to do things differently. It's a complex systemic problem.