Also, societal pressure wouldn't apply at home, right? I remember going through phases where I would be embarrassed by my parents talking to me in their native language in front of other people when we were outside

(as children do...), but that never changed the way we spoke at home.
It can vary wildly. I know some kids in my area who are embarrassed their parents aren’t native English speakers, but it’s an overwhelmingly Anglo area and I wasn’t exactly welcome either. I do what I can to try to help. :|
I don't really follow other fan fest threats that much, so I can't really judge, but aren't all of them similar in their "obsessiveness"?
Hanyu’s is a lot calmer than I expected (mostly just busy due to media updates), and Boyang’s is very chill.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with discussing Nathan’s language skills as they relate to his career... but discussing potential courses he could take feels like a bridge too far. It’s not just that — the comments about his “husky” voice and his attractiveness, the speed of the thread, and the general intensity, combined with comments like “well then his parents should MAKE HIM speak Mandarin” ... I’m not trying to rain on anyone’s parade here, but it makes me feel uncomfortable and creeped out
for Nathan. It’s not about his skating at this point; it feels more like a thread dedicated to his teenage heartthrob appeal with some too-close-for-comfort analysis of his life.
I guess what I’m saying is: we’re all invested, on some level, in the skaters that we’re fans of, and that’s the beauty of fandom. But Nathan is
eighteen. I, personally, am incapable of finding him “sexy,” as he’s way too young for me, although I recognize that he’s attractive and obviously younger fans will. But eighteen is also ... really young. He hasn’t even started college and there are posts about the best way for him to improve his Mandarin in school. That’s ... not about language as it relates to his skating, nor does it feel like fair game in terms of his life.
I’m concerned about the injury Raf mentioned, although I don’t take Raf’s word as gospel, and wondering what Nathan plans to do next in terms of skating. But those don’t feel like appropriate topics for this thread. That’s where my sense of unease stems from — shouldn’t this thread be the perfect venue for discussing those issues? But it’s more of a play by play of Nathan, The Person, in excruciating detail, and I can’t help but feel like he never signed up for this....