Random Confessions

[elbkup]

Well it is Summer despite the calendar technicality… my sister’s dog Bailen was skunk sprayed .. this is them at 11 pm.. neither too happy

 

[anonymoose_au]

I was at my grandparents place for a visit today and I noticed all these photo albums and just had to look through them...

And I found this photo of me ice skating! This would have been one of the first times I went.

Had I more talent this could be have been my "Embarrassing BB!Skater" photo

Also interesting fact this ice rink used to exist in the small country town I lived in as a kid. It eventually closed down, but it was so random it was even there...
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[elbkup]

I was at my grandparents place for a visit today and I noticed all these photo albums and just had to look through them...

And I found this photo of me ice skating! This would have been one of the first times I went.

Had I more talent this could be have been my "Embarrassing BB!Skater" photo

Also interesting fact this ice rink used to exist in the small country town I lived in as a kid. It eventually closed down, but it was so random it was even there...
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Love this.. You stood up!!! Better than I ever did

 

[CoyoteChris]

Well it is Summer despite the calendar technicality… my sister’s dog Bailen was skunk sprayed .. this is them at 11 pm.. neither too happy

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We need an emoji for "yuck" . Skunks carry rabies so you have to be careful around them. But procupines and dogs also dont get along.

 

[CaroLiza_fan]

I was at my grandparents place for a visit today and I noticed all these photo albums and just had to look through them...

And I found this photo of me ice skating! This would have been one of the first times I went.

Had I more talent this could be have been my "Embarrassing BB!Skater" photo

Also interesting fact this ice rink used to exist in the small country town I lived in as a kid. It eventually closed down, but it was so random it was even there...
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I'll try to resist making a joke about a Mini Moose wearing a Mickey Moose outfit.

Nah, I can't!

Seriously, though. As somebody who grew up on Disney cartoons, I love that outfit!

By the way, now that I see what you looked like when you were a youngster, I realise that young Moose looks a bit like one of the (now retired) Cypriot skaters when she was that sort of an age.

Love this.. You stood up!!! Better than I ever did

I can totally relate to this statement. The first (and only) time I was on the ice, I did one lap of the rink clinging onto the boards for dear life! And I was a good bit older than Moose was in her photo!

At the time, I vowed never again. But, for the past few years, I have wanted to have another try. Unfortunately, there are no rinks near me (for goodness sake, there's only one permanent rink on the entire island! ) So, @anonymoose_au was very lucky to have one in her hometown when she was a kid. It just shows that you don't need to be a settlement with a big population to have a rink - you just need somebody with the will (and the money!) to build it.

Well, a rink probably does need a lot of people in the catchment area to make it viable. Which is probably why the rinks that Moose and I had our first experiences on the ice at are no longer operating.

CaroLiza_fan

 

[elbkup]

I'll try to resist making a joke about a Mini Moose wearing a Mickey Moose outfit.

Nah, I can't!

Seriously, though. As somebody who grew up on Disney cartoons, I love that outfit!

By the way, now that I see what you looked like when you were a youngster, I realise that young Moose looks a bit like one of the (now retired) Cypriot skaters when she was that sort of an age.



I can totally relate to this statement. The first (and only) time I was on the ice, I did one lap of the rink clinging onto the boards for dear life! And I was a good bit older than Moose was in her photo!

At the time, I vowed never again. But, for the past few years, I have wanted to have another try. Unfortunately, there are no rinks near me (for goodness sake, there's only one permanent rink on the entire island! ) So, @anonymoose_au was very lucky to have one in her hometown when she was a kid. It just shows that you don't need to be a settlement with a big population to have a rink - you just need somebody with the will (and the money!) to build it.

Well, a rink probably does need a lot of people in the catchment area to make it viable. Which is probably why the rinks that Moose and I had our first experiences on the ice at are no longer operating.

CaroLiza_fan

Throwback..
You Me & Moose I guess..

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[elbkup]

We need an emoji for "yuck" . Skunks carry rabies so you have to be careful around them. But procupines and dogs also dont get along.

Yes Janet was a veterinary tech for 40 years.. we are prepared for rabies and other such.. but it is scary nonetheless!
Bailen unfortunately will never learn..

 

[CaroLiza_fan]

Just watched the episode of "Star Trek: The Next Generation" that was shown on Pick TV last night (Series 6, Episode 25: "Timescape"). And I was shocked and delighted to hear my crush from the series, Counsellor Deanna Troi, doing an impersonation of an Ktarian, Dr. Mizan, who clearly talks like he is from Northern Ireland!!!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=73sgRKrbRas

OK, so it was a pretty dodgy accent. But, fair play to her for trying it.

Now I'm really curious to know if Marina Sirtis was basing it on somebody in particular...

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Related confession. Because I knew she was from Hackney, and because I knew that Hackney has a large Cypriot community, I always assumed that Marina Sirtis was Cypriot. But, about a year ago, I was trying to find out where exactly her family was originally from, and found a post where somebody asked her directly if she was Cypriot. And she replied that although she grew up in a Cypriot community, she is actually Greek.

Although they are not from the country I thought they were, I'm still curious to know whereabouts her family came from. If they are from the mainland, or from one of the islands. (I am always curious to find that out whenever I hear somebody is Greek). But, I have not had any success.

Wherever her origins lie, she's gorgeous!!!

CaroLiza_fan

 

[bartlebooth]

More than a random confession, this is going to be a messy rant. I apologize in advance.
I've just discovered that my college sweetheart, (the only relationship I've been in) has been married for a while, on top of a good career (which I was already aware of).
When we were together (for almost 6 years) he was possessive, very controlling and jealous without any plausible reason, psychologically and (twice) physically abusive, but I was in awe of his smarts and we shared a strong intellectual bond, so I put up with a lot. I even helped him with exams when he was thinking of dropping out. He gave me hope that neglecting me for his friends, to whom I was not allowed to speak because he was jealous, was "just a phase". Of course, he ended up cheating on me and dumping me for one of said friends (at that point, he already had done a lot of emotional cheating and flirtatious behaviour with other people, I complained A LOT about that but hoped that we could work it out someway). He didn't even have the common decency of telling me that. His way to break up with me was: ghosting me while I was at my parents' for the weekend, then telling me "we have to break up" and, basically, to pack my sh!t and f*ck off. When I discovered everything and confronted him, he said that he didn't want me to suffer (to which I replied "Your sensitivity overwhelms me"), suggested that I found a "nice guy", then admitted that he didn't want me to tell his friends how he treated me, especially the beating part. He wasn't sorry about the beating, only worried of what others could think. When I was looking for somewhere to stay, he threatened to throw my books away if I didn't shut up about it. That bizarrely hurt me more than everything else, because our shared passion for reading had brought us together in the first place.
Now, for the really jealous guy that he was, he chose a shock therapy: his new girlfriend (the drunken hookup) had previously slept with all his friends, but he said that it didn't bother him. I know for sure that he cheated on her as well. He candidly admitted that she wasn't as smart as me, I don't know if he really meant it. I actually thought that, since the jealousy was now in the past, we could carry on a friendship of sorts, just because I prized him so much on an intellectual level, even despising him on a sentimental one.
He refused (blaming his girlfriend), but I have been afraid ever since that actually he never considered me intelligent enough.
I had a breakdown, like at least six months with high difficulty to sleep and eat, a constant sense of oppression on my chest, obsessive thoughts, nightmares, yada yada. Since everyone's advice (including his) was to "get over it", I tried to keep on barely functioning, but I slipped in a funk and became reclusive and depressed for years. I couldn't stand facing the risk of meeting him with his friends and girlfriend.

I didn't try to forget, but I simply didn't talk about it anymore. To this day, I never mention him, my family avoids the topic, except for my mother who recently used it because, failing memory, poor health and all, she still recognise everybody's triggers (when there was the break up, I only told her that he had broke up with me. I never could talk with my parents about such things). I just shut down emotionally.

Years later, I was googling something completely unrelated and I stumbled upon a photo of him. I started shaking and crying in front of the computer, had an anxiety attack and then googled him directly,. He was going on with his life and was successful in his field. I tried to shake myself out of my depression, and to become a person he wouldn't be ashamed to reconnect with, even only to catch up. I still think about him almost daily and dream about him almost every time I can recall a dream ( I usually don't). I've never tried to contact him, I'm already pathetic enough as it is. I did google him once every two or three years, just to know how he was doing.
Apparently he's been in a serious relationship with a smart, successful woman for years and they married. I doubt that he keeps being jealous and controlling, he's probably matured and became a better person. He's kinda a serial monogamist, from what I can recall from the timeline. This one relationship looks like a supportive, mature, caring one, like I had thought possible for us and wasn't meant to be.

So, he treated me like crap, but apparently he learned something from the experience. Maybe he even got over his alcohol habit, which I didn't partake in. Many people do after college. After the breakup, I had asked him to explain what MY mistakes in the relationship had been, but I didn't get much of an answer ("you should have left me")
I tried to make it work, and now I am stagnating in life, with a bad situation in almost all respects, and I never even went on a date with anyone anymore. Rationally, I know that I have to fix myself first, and emotionally, I am too scared to get into something toxic, yet again. But it's been more than a decade. I don't care about a family life , and I'm fine with never marrying and dying alone. Before him, I already suspected that it was highly probable for me. For sure, I don't want a rebound. I would love to have with someone an emotional and intellectual partnership like the one he appears to share with his wife (I know I can't judge from the outside). That's why I was so desperate to make it work.
I don't want to get hurt, I don't want to hurt anybody, I would like to finally move on , but all these pent up emotions have been dragging me down for years. Right now, I hope not to cross paths with him again, I'm ashamed that I wasn't able to move on and I'm afraid of not controlling myself (nothing scary or bunny-boilery, more like I don't want neither to cry nor to be sarcastic and snarky)

I'm thinking about moving, to shake things up and to put more distance between them and me. I repeat, I have no desire to contact him, he probably barely remembers me, but, honestly, at this point I don't want to risk to meet him by chance, either.

Thank you to all the agony aunts who will read. I never talk about him and I try not to think about him, but I had to get this off my chest. Right now, I know I should be happy for him, but strangely I am very affected by the fact that they've been together for years, so it's not like he met her later in life, but rather they did a lot of growing up together (just like I had always hoped for us, and maybe our relationship served solely the purpose of being a catalogue of mistakes never to make again).

Boy, it hurts. Rationally, I can see that I can only move on, but until now I've clung to my sorrow way too much. I didn't want all the meaning of our relationship to disappear. The breakup was bad, but I didn't learn anything from it, except to avoid life. Now I know that we'll never reconcile, not even on a friendly level, so I have to stop playing a mashup of Miss Havisham and Jay Gatsby.

 

[yuumagical]

Thank you to all the agony aunts who will read. I never talk about him and I try not to think about him, but I had to get this off my chest.

First of all, I'm glad you got this off of your chest. Recognizing that you need a change in your way of thinking about yourself and your ex is the first step towards making that a reality. Have you ever brought your feelings up with a psychologist or therapist? I think someone like that would be far better suited to help you than a random internet user like myself. I have spent plenty of time with psychiatrists during periods when I was depressed, and they tend to be good listeners and provide practical ways of dealing with mental health issues and changing one's attitudes about life. If you can't afford a therapist, someone like a trusted religious figure or a very close friend can help you sort through feelings like that.

I think making changes in your life is a good place to start. Even small things like starting a new exercise routine, trying new hobbies, meeting new people (not necessarily dating!) and traveling to new places can help shift those thoughts away from what happened in the past and towards new possibilities in life. I truly hope you can break free from your awful past experiences and see the limitless potential in your future that I know you have! Sending you many kind thoughts. ❤

 

[dorispulaski]

@bartlebooth I am sorry to hear you have been going through all that. Writing it down is a good first step. And the suggestion to find a therapist, if possible, is a good one.

You said you thought of moving. Moving might be perhaps a good idea because you will be finding a new job as well as no longer having to fear meeting your ex. While it might not solve your problems, you will be rebuilding everything about your life in a new place.

I hope everything improves for you from here on.

 

[elbkup]

“You gotta learn to love what’s good for you”..
easy for some, so hard for others
but the best remedy is living well and finding (your own best) joy.. do whatever it takes friend!
God speed

 

[invisiblespiral]

Who can you see skating to this?


(Hanyu, maybe?)

 

[elbkup]

Who can you see skating to this?


(Hanyu, maybe?)

Patrick Chan

 

[NoNameFace]

Popping up here to confess starting my annual vacation from work.
Taking into consideration few last months though, I don't know if I'll have it in me to log in back after 2 weeks...I'm already at loss thinking about it. Maybe it's for real the time for a change (which will be very difficult to make for a person like me, with no confidence or conviction of getting new job)?

 

[yuumagical]

Popping up here to confess starting my annual vacation from work.
Taking into consideration few last months though, I don't know if I'll have it in me to log in back after 2 weeks...I'm already at loss thinking about it. Maybe it's for real the time for a change (which will be very difficult to make for a person like me, with no confidence or conviction of getting new job)?

Change is tough, but I know you can leave that job! I felt the same way about my old job before the pandemic hit and forced me out of it. It was a boring office job where I did the same thing day after day and I was really only doing it for the money at the end of my time there.

Take some time to relax on your vacation, so that when you get back you can find a way to leave your job. My university actually allows alumni to take advantage of their career center, maybe this could be an option for you. If not, you could still visit local job fairs (or find a career counselor in your area). Oftentimes there's people there that can review your resume, see where it needs updating, and find skills that can be transferred into other types of positions.

Applying for jobs is an utterly annoying and frustrating process (and I admittedly need to force myself to apply for some side jobs) but it has to be done... Tailoring your resume to the requirements of the job and following up with the status of the application at least makes one stand out more in a sea of applicants.

My current position isn't an office job; it's in a completely different lindustry, doing a more physically demanding type of work than before...and I enjoy it immensely because it's not the same thing day after day. Even though it is a gig-based position and I am rather underemployed at the moment, I am still more satisfied with it than I was when I had that office job. It took a couple of jobs where I was fired within two weeks of being at them before finding this job. Hopefully my own advice and experiences can help you out in some way...

 

[NoNameFace]

Change is tough, but I know you can leave that job! I felt the same way about my old job before the pandemic hit and forced me out of it. It was a boring office job where I did the same thing day after day and I was really only doing it for the money at the end of my time there.

Take some time to relax on your vacation, so that when you get back you can find a way to leave your job. My university actually allows alumni to take advantage of their career center, maybe this could be an option for you. If not, you could still visit local job fairs (or find a career counselor in your area). Oftentimes there's people there that can review your resume, see where it needs updating, and find skills that can be transferred into other types of positions.

Applying for jobs is an utterly annoying and frustrating process (and I admittedly need to force myself to apply for some side jobs) but it has to be done... Tailoring your resume to the requirements of the job and following up with the status of the application at least makes one stand out more in a sea of applicants.

My current position isn't an office job; it's in a completely different lindustry, doing a more physically demanding type of work than before...and I enjoy it immensely because it's not the same thing day after day. Even though it is a gig-based position and I am rather underemployed at the moment, I am still more satisfied with it than I was when I had that office job. It took a couple of jobs where I was fired within two weeks of being at them before finding this job. Hopefully my own advice and experiences can help you out in some way...

Thanks & I'm glad you are is a good place job-wise (or job-attitude wise).
It's not that easy with me and my own attitude though, both regarding changes and job/working. Various circumstances will probably keep me rooted there for at least next half a year - and while it's never about the job itself for me (the tasks are similar, bit the substance varies, so it's not that monotone), it's always about people I have to work with. Yes, I'm not a Saint and the easiest person to work with, but seeing incompetent people being promoted/put on lead for 8th year in a row starts to get on my nerves. It's frustrating to see someone asking me, a mere analyst, about basic procedural stuff while being promoted to 'expert' position few weeks back. But it's ingrained in the 'culture' I guess, connections being valued more than knowledge/experience and being competent.
Plus one more thing that annoys me very much is the expectation that we all should be a loving family - ummm, like NO. The last thing I want to do with these people is pretending I like them while I mostly don't, especially when their work attitude shows that they do not respect my time & work.

I'm just tired. But since I have no one who could support me financially, I have to get up & work . At least I have 2 weeks now to 'numb' myself against ignorance happening around there. We will see how it will go.

 

[yuumagical]

Thanks & I'm glad you are is a good place job-wise (or job-attitude wise).
It's not that easy with me and my own attitude though, both regarding changes and job/working. Various circumstances will probably keep me rooted there for at least next half a year - and while it's never about the job itself for me (the tasks are similar, bit the substance varies, so it's not that monotone), it's always about people I have to work with.

Well, my job attitude is definitely better than my job position at the moment...I had heard that fall was a busy time of year for my position, but I haven't had any jobs since the first week of September (seniority is a factor when assigning jobs to people in my position). It is a rather distressing situation, especially when I have a trip to Canada coming up next month.

Plus one more thing that annoys me very much is the expectation that we all should be a loving family - ummm, like NO. The last thing I want to do with these people is pretending I like them while I mostly don't, especially when their work attitude shows that they do not respect my time & work.

I totally hear you there. There was a "family" culture at my pre-pandemic workplace as well. Although the people there were mostly nice, I really felt like the odd one out for wanting to focus on my work and not socialize too much. Thankfully my current position isn't enmeshed within a context of socialization; it's more about communicating what needs to be done on the job.

 

[invisiblespiral]

More possible skating music, courtesy of my boyfriend:

 

[elbkup]

More possible skating music, courtesy of my boyfriend:

YES!! I This show!!