Figure skating fandom has always had favorites, but lately I noticed:
Every score = a personal attack
Every critique = “hater behavior”
Every competition = stan war
Not just on the forum, but across social media.
Yes, I noticed, too. It's been going on for a while. It doesn't affect just figure skating comments. Reasonable discussion is vanishing. Meaningful conversation is vanishing from the communication culture across the media. Why so? There are reasons, factors, etc. but they are all off-topic

So, keeping aside the factors that we can't influence, what can be done to have a nice figure skating conversation anyway? Apparently, leaving out politics and sensitive subjects is very little help when the conversation culture itself significantly radicalizes.
As an individual, I follow my own recipe. I ignore a lot and scroll a lot. Plain bashing leads nowhere; if I suspect that, I'm out of the conversation. Does it mean that I hold back my opinion? Sometimes, no; it's already been published and there's no point to repeat. Sometimes, yes; but I don't fret. I can save it for a better conversation.
So, my answer to changing times and morals is: I have my personal quality standards for an online conversation and I'm looking for people who have good quality standards for
their conversation (and I keep returning to the Goldenskate forum because I can find a good bunch of such people here

). That's about it.
So, this is where I stand; I guess that this is a pretty radical point of view

And this is how the bulleted list looks to me:
- Are we judging performances… or defending our favorites no matter what?
- Has stan culture made discussions more fun—or completely exhausting?
- Do certain skaters get a free pass while others get picked apart?
- Have you ever held back an opinion because you didn’t want the backlash?
- Is it even possible to be both a fan and objective anymore?
- Are we judging performances… or defending our favorites no matter what?
Actually, both can go overboard; there can be over-judging as well as over-protecting that can ruin the quality of the conversation. I watch out for red flags in both cases.
- Has stan culture made discussions more fun—or completely exhausting?
Stan culture implies that there is
no discussion. It's radical. You are only supposed to agree. For me, it means that I do not engage in discussion with stans - or, only discuss subjects not related to their stanning.
- Do certain skaters get a free pass while others get picked apart?
It is indeed a red flag for a poor quality conversation.
- Have you ever held back an opinion because you didn’t want the backlash?
I'm not a person who cares about backlash. If I think it's worth saying, I say it. Well, there have been occasions when I don't bother coming back to read replies though

However, I've been holding back from starting topics in Goldenskate forum. I admit that
- Is it even possible to be both a fan and objective anymore?
Everything is possible but there is this one thing... If you believe that your opinion is super objective, then why do you want to hear other people's opinions? I bet that you don't

That's why posters who insist "I'm objective" instantly earn a red flag from me while the ones who say "oh, I'm so biased" get the green one. If nothing else, it serves as an honest bias warning for me for not to engage in a discussion about their stan object.
But, of course, I always give it a second thought (two or three times before I finally block the poster

)
OK, too long post already.