It's been about risk the entire time. A variety of risks - risk of injury, risk of financial ruin, risk of putting all your eggs into one basket, etc.
I brought up injuries in post 10, which is pretty early in the thread. Again I wrote in post 25:
FYI the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends avoiding specializing in one sport before puberty. They say:
"Research supports the recommendation that child athletes avoid early sports specialization. Those who participate in a variety of sports and specialize only after reaching the age of puberty tend to be more consistent performers, have fewer injuries, and adhere to sports play longer than those who specialize early."
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Your experience may differ, but I'm fairly certain that elite skaters nearly always have some injury. And no, not every sport has lots of risks. Some have more than others. Figure skating certainly comes with risk of broken bones, concussions, sprains, and other injuries to joints and spine, as well as overuse injuries. And there's risk of disordered eating. And there's related risks to figure skating - for instance, hockey. For me, there's a real worry my kiddo will switch to hockey eventually, especially if he can't get far in figure skating.
From the Chron:
“Ice skating is so artistic, people view it as closer to golf as opposed to ice hockey,” said Dr. Mark Adickes, medical director of Memorial Hermann's Sports Medicine Institute. “But when it comes to injuries, it's closer to hockey. Skaters reach an elite level at such a young age and exert so much power that injuries after their careers are over are common, especially spine and hip injuries.” [...] Adickes estimates at least 25 percent of elite skaters will have significant injuries.
http://www.chron.com/news/health/ar...is-beautiful-on-the-ice-brutal-on-1696548.php
also:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12860537/
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24030306
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10036716
And just go read the concussions thread. Lots of top skaters have admitted to having multiple serious concussions:
https://www.goldenskate.com/forum/showthread.php?64901&p=1749412#post1749412
Maybe you haven't seen it at your rink yet. I have seen quite a few injuries. One girl broke her ankle landing a jump. One girl accidentally got stabbed in the back when she fell on another's toe pick, needed stitches. A boy got smacked in the side of the head, left crying with an ice pack - I don't know the outcome. And countless other bumps and bruises. And those are just the acute injuries. The chronic ones can also be worrisome - how many young skaters would knowingly accept painful arthritis for the majority of their lives as a consequence of skating? Or the risk of possible opioid addiction as a result of trying to curb that arthritic pain?
First of all please forgive me ahead of time for the bluntness and forwardness that will be coming forth in this post.
I have skated for almost 30 years at this point, and am a former elite skater (now pro), I have skated since I was around 3 years old: Have I had injuries to my ankles and knees from long term wear and tear? Yes. Do I have joint pain? yes from time to time I do. Have I become an opioid addict from it? No. Have any of my other elite athlete friends who may or may not have former injuries become addicts over it? NO!
All this talk of risk is ridiculous. Every sport there is comes with risk. Heck, walking out the front door of your home in the morning comes with risk? So maybe you shouldn't let your child do that anymore either. Perhaps roll the kid in bubble wrap?
There are many other sports that come to mind when I think of risks and horrible long term injuries (possible): Ski racing, slalom ski racing, gymnastics, diving, skeleton, bobsled, etc.
Even if your kid became a part of that 1-2 percentile that ends up as an elite figure skater, he wouldn't be coming into that until at least his teens or later, so that throws some of those "statistics" you've cited out the window. And we are nowhere close to golf or hockey at the elite levels. Sorry. I've never seen a golfer doing choreo on the course in my lifetime so that's just a stupid comparison.
As far as concussions: Yes I've had them. Where did my worst one come from? Fainting at home from having the flu. I have had a whiplash one but that's not counted by any of the specialists I've seen in the past in my case, because it didn't happen on the ice. So again, your statistics aren't serving you too well here.
Now the other injuries you've sighted. The girl that broke her ankle while landing a jump, more than likely was bad technique and carelessness or a break down in her boot, the girl that got stabbed in the back with a toe pick....very rare freak accident. Kid smacked in the head? Was it from a fall where he hit the ice or boards or were he or another skater not watching where they were going and collided? Because that would be another more rare thing left to carelessness.
Now, as far as AndreaRu's post that you quoted. IDK where she is located so IDK the extensiveness or level of the skating center at which she goes. It may be in a small locale and not have high level coaches. Or perhaps it is and they have a great protocol, I'll let her answer that for you.
I can only say for myself that I have trained in multiple top training centers over the years in the US and Canada with some of the best coaches there are, coaches you and your kid see on television. And injuries do happen. More so in ice dance and pairs, but yes they also occur in singles. Some can be freak accidents, some not so much. But are skaters getting injured every time you turn around? No. In a period of several decades in this sport I have had a total of 5 injuries (and no I'm not a freak of nature), one of my best friends has had 3 and he has been skating about the same length of time. The fact of the matter is, it's a sport and all sports come with the possibilities of injuries. And as the risk for the reward increases as the sport goes along (emphasis and push for men to be doing multi quads per program and ladies doing triple triples and 3A's), you are going to see more injuries (such as this Grand Prix season with many of the men).
From your other ranting post (post #57 to be exact), you made clear to everyone here what I had been thinking since page one of this thread. You can deny it all you want but you have a strong dislike for our sport and deep down don't want to be bothered with your kid attempting it and you don't want to be put out financially or otherwise because of his possible love for this wonderful sport. You can say all you want about how you're only wanting to do it if it makes him happy or successful etc. But in the end you're going to be breeding resentment from your kid because he knows mom hates everything there is in this sport and doesn't want him doing it and could care less to learn anything about it: Such as recognizing the jumps or something as simple as saying "hey kiddo your 3 turns and mohawks are getting better.", because that requires you to care about the sport enough to learn along with the kid without being on the ice yourself.
One last tidbit of info for you here: Ask myself or any other elite figure skater out there and they will tell you that they wouldn't be where they were without the extensive efforts of their parents and how much their parents took to learning about the sport while they were out there working endlessly for years with coaches and choreographers and the like. If you aren't going to be giving a care to the sport and what it's about and take some interest in it outside of just your kid then that's hurting your kid more than it would be helping him. And since it's a "he" that makes it even harder for him because boys get bullied by their non-rink peers and have a harder go of it than girls. Look at the "get up" campaign from US figure skating.
Again, I am sorry if this comes off harsh, but I'm just stating the truth of the matter. I am very passionate about my sport (which does have it's flaws), but it's still a great sport. I have formed skills on and off the ice and friendships that will last a lifetime and I wouldn't give it up for the world. I will never be able to thank my parents enough for encouraging me at such a young age, same with my coaches and other training staff then and all the way up.
This is something that you need to discuss with your kid NOW, not later. There is no chart to tell you anything about how things will turn out.
I would hate to see you tell him that he cannot continue in the sport because mom is being selfish about having anything to do with it on her end. I cannot see a good outcome here that doesn't end up in resentment now or down the road and it makes me very sad to say that.
I wish you and your kiddo all the best.
Good luck.