Random Confessions

[Arriba627]

Thanks!

And yeah, there's a lot of great places in MI! One of my favorites was going to Silver Lake Sand Dunes a few years ago.

Yes!!!! We are at a small fishing lake closer to the town of Pentwater than to Ludington. Have been to good ole Silver Lake many times and (of course!) ridden the Mac Woods Dune Scooters! Pretty dead there in the winter though. Only once in my life was there in March, and you could have rolled a bowling ball down the middle of the main street in Pentwater! I love it!

 

[NoNameFace]

random confession of the day, kind of unexpected...

today I got a call from my high school/college friend - we're meeting on Thursday to catch up, but mainly because she's getting married on 1st July and wants to give me an official invitation to the ceremony in church and for the wedding. I am over the moon for her and her fiance - I have witnessed that relationship since its very beginning 7 years ago; they seem to be quite opposite, but he truly adores her and she treats him as her best friend and her anchor. I know I am paranoid, but my apprehension is connected with...attendace to that whole wedding. I know - weird, but I am very private, 'close-out' person who does not like events like that, especially with lots of people and alcohol while I'm not drinking person. Last wedding I attended on was back in 2012, it was my sister's one before which I got several panic attacks and had insomnia, during wich I barely ate something being nervous about family member who could ruin this day badly and after it it all went downhill ending with my parents' divorce.

I just seem not being able to fully relax on that kind of things, but I'm willing to try. For Caroline - as she was my steady rock during whole college time, 2 last years of it being probably the most miserable period of my life mentally. I am concerned at the moment about many things about me at this wedding, but I hope my insecurities won't eat me.

 

[Mrs. P]

random confession of the day, kind of unexpected...

today I got a call from my high school/college friend - we're meeting on Thursday to catch up, but mainly because she's getting married on 1st July and wants to give me an official invitation to the ceremony in church and for the wedding. I am over the moon for her and her fiance - I have witnessed that relationship since its very beginning 7 years ago; they seem to be quite opposite, but he truly adores her and she treats him as her best friend and her anchor. I know I am paranoid, but my apprehension is connected with...attendace to that whole wedding. I know - weird, but I am very private, 'close-out' person who does not like events like that, especially with lots of people and alcohol while I'm not drinking person. Last wedding I attended on was back in 2012, it was my sister's one before which I got several panic attacks and had insomnia, during wich I barely ate something being nervous about family member who could ruin this day badly and after it it all went downhill ending with my parents' divorce.

I just seem not being able to fully relax on that kind of things, but I'm willing to try. For Caroline - as she was my steady rock during whole college time, 2 last years of it being probably the most miserable period of my life mentally. I am concerned at the moment about many things about me at this wedding, but I hope my insecurities won't eat me.

Would you be allow to bring a + one? Maybe it would be good to have a friend along to keep your nerves at bay? Or maybe ask your friend if there are any mutual friends who will be at the wedding? And since she sounds like a good friend -- maybe share your anxieties -- I get you may feel like it's out of place cause she needs to focus on the wedding, but obviously she wants you there, so I think she would be willing to lend an ear.

 

[NoNameFace]

Would you be allow to bring a + one? Maybe it would be good to have a friend along to keep your nerves at bay? Or maybe ask your friend if there are any mutual friends who will be at the wedding? And since she sounds like a good friend -- maybe share your anxieties -- I get you may feel like it's out of place cause she needs to focus on the wedding, but obviously she wants you there, so I think she would be willing to lend an ear.

I suspect that an invitation will include a + one for me, but in all honesty I'd rather go solo, this is just more comfortable way to do this for me. And I do suspect that there will be quite a few our mutual friends from high school/college, so there won't be too much of awkwardness (I hope). It's just that I have to not put to much pressure on myself about this whole situation and accept the way other people will be enjoying themselves, in the same time not feeling out of place with myself considering my 'approach', embracing it and allow eventually other people to do the same. This is just one of many situations of my insecurities raising after something unexpected appears, I just have to talk with her sincerely and find a way to allow myself for relaxing and enjoying their special moment in my way, without pressure of other people. It's just another lesson for me.

 

[Violet Bliss]

NNF, it sounds like the last wedding you attended did have various valid reasons for you to be nervous about and which did manifest the worst way possible. This coming wedding seems likely to be a happy one, meaningful for the couple as well as you. All trepidation seems to come from yourself, partly due to the earlier experience. If you could disconnect your good friends' wedding from the horrible experience and go with positive expectations, it just may turn out to be an happy and memorable event.

Personally I never care much for weddings but of course I think all couples have the right to celebrate their nuptial any way they see fit, especially if they are considerate of the guests and have them enjoy the event as well. Since you are invited with the sincere wish to share their joy, perhaps you can go with a sincere blessing. This is a perfect occasion to practice not making it about you so you won't be so self conscious, shy, or insecure. After all, the couple are the stars and focus of attention, as it should be.

I hope you will enjoy the occasion and yourself, and get to share the memory with your dear friend.

 

[NoNameFace]

Violet Bliss - thanks a lot, for me it is indeed a matter of channelling my focus and emotions in right way, on right people being my friend and her fiance, I just wish I would not get so stressed/nervous in advance about myself and such unexpected announcements, about such crowded events...I simply have to not add additional drama and self-insecurity into everything, it's hard, but I'm learning

 

[Violet Bliss]

Violet Bliss - thanks a lot, for me it is indeed a matter of channelling my focus and emotions in right way, on right people being my friend and her fiance, I just wish I would not get so stressed/nervous in advance about myself and such unexpected announcements, about such crowded events...I simply have to not add additional drama and self-insecurity into everything, it's hard, but I'm learning

:thumbsup:

eta: The more crowded it is, the less conspicuous you are. Just blend in and watch those who like attention. Or observe and learn from someone whose social grace you admire. You may find other people are mostly concerned with themselves or the more conspicuous persons, not you. If you get any attention, just be yourself. Nothing to be apologize for.

 

[NanaPat]

NNF, maybe you can ask your friend if there's something you can do for her during the wedding: supervise the punch table, look after an elderly aunt, or whatever she feels would make her life easier on the day. You'd feel like you're contributing to her happiness in a concrete way and it would also keep you too busy to feel awkward.

At large gatherings where I don't know many people, I have been known to retreat to the kitchen to help with the prep and cleanup. It was quite nice there, with a small congenial group of people!

Of course that won't work at a catered event, but having a purpose can help you feel more comfortable.

 

[Ic3Rabbit]

Yes!!!! We are at a small fishing lake closer to the town of Pentwater than to Ludington. Have been to good ole Silver Lake many times and (of course!) ridden the Mac Woods Dune Scooters! Pretty dead there in the winter though. Only once in my life was there in March, and you could have rolled a bowling ball down the middle of the main street in Pentwater! I love it!

Ah yes! You're way on the other side of the state from me up there on Lake MI! It's beautiful over there in the spring and summertime!

 

[el henry]

I just miss home. I've only been back to NJ twice in the last few years and I've been dealing with a lot lot lot of mental anxiety/depression issues throughout the past year.

It's nothing to do with MI as a state itself. It's nice here. It's just me missing home and ready to move on with my life.

Your neighbors in Pennsylvania will be ready to welcome you back:agree:

I was in Michigan for the very first time ever on Tuesday and then Saturday:but I never left the airport; I was connecting in Detroit..

Started me thinking, though, about places where I have been *only* in the airport:
Detroit
Phoenix
Charlotte
the runway at Newfoundland, didn't even get to the airport

Anyone else have "airport only" cities?

 

[Ic3Rabbit]

Your neighbors in Pennsylvania will be ready to welcome you back:agree:

I was in Michigan for the very first time ever on Tuesday and then Saturday:but I never left the airport; I was connecting in Detroit..

Started me thinking, though, about places where I have been *only* in the airport:
Detroit
Phoenix
Charlotte
the runway at Newfoundland, didn't even get to the airport

Anyone else have "airport only" cities?

Yes! With all of the travelling I do I have many. It's sad really because there are so many cities I would love to spend more time in than just airports.

 

[karne]

Anyone else have "airport only" cities?

Salt Lake City
Atlanta

 

[NanaPat]

Some of my airport-only cities:

Frankfurt (nice airport!)
Phoenix
Newark
Quito
Seoul (followed by police/soldiers because we were "acting suspicious" by walking around to stretch our legs after a long flight)
Dhaka (there, the soldiers stood with their rifles at the bottom of the steps to make sure no passengers tried to get off the plane)
Paris (if going from the Gare du Nord to Gare du Lyon via underground and seeing absolutely nothing of the city counts)

And if less than 36 hours in a city (leaving the airport, but only for a single day or a day and a night or just overnight) counts:
Honolulu
Singapore
Bangkok
Lima
London

 

[Chemistry66]

Your neighbors in Pennsylvania will be ready to welcome you back:agree:

I was in Michigan for the very first time ever on Tuesday and then Saturday:but I never left the airport; I was connecting in Detroit..

Started me thinking, though, about places where I have been *only* in the airport:
Detroit
Phoenix
Charlotte
the runway at Newfoundland, didn't even get to the airport

Anyone else have "airport only" cities?

LOL thanks about the welcome back. I'm from South Jersey to the point where my town is pretty much considered a suburb of Philly by a lot of people (with the technicality that it's not actually in PA, lol)

As for airport-only cities:

Domestic (USA):

- Charlotte, North Carolina (a few times for various reasons)
- Minneapolis-St. Paul, Minnesota (on the way to Singapore)
- Somewhere in Texas (but I can't remember which one we actually stopped at, on the way to a conference)

Foreign:

- Tokyo-Narita (on the way to Singapore, second stop after MSP)
- Seoul (on the way home from Singapore, first stop)

 

[Mrs. P]

My airport only cities list is very short:

Detroit
Salt Lake City

Layover cities I have visited at other times:
Chicago Midway
Chicago O'Hare
Dallas/Fort Worth
Minneapolis/St. Paul
Las Vegas
Los Angeles
St. Louis
Seattle
Vancouver

 

[el henry]

LOL thanks about the welcome back. I'm from South Jersey to the point where my town is pretty much considered a suburb of Philly by a lot of people (with the technicality that it's not actually in PA, lol)

......

Born and raised in Philly, and you all "over there": Cherry Hill, Cinnaminson, my cousins in Runnemede, etc., might as well be Philadelphians. But when you say Jersey to auschlanders, they're thinking Sopranos

 

[Mrs. P]

I spent my childhood in Philly (South Philly for a few years, then moved to the suburbs) too...not sure if you knew that el henry.

Spent many childhood days at Cherry Hill Mall and skating at the skating rink --- i can't remember which one though.

 

[Heleng]

I decorated my graduation cap about 1.5 weeks ago and I included names of skaters and one of my fave YouTubers on it.

https://www.instagram.com/p/BTMfT0_lE9o/?taken-by=cheerknithanson

LOL! Go Caps! Here's hoping they slay it in game 7 in the semi-finals tomorrow!

 

[el henry]

I spent my childhood in Philly (South Philly for a few years, then moved to the suburbs) too...not sure if you knew that el henry.

Spent many childhood days at Cherry Hill Mall and skating at the skating rink --- i can't remember which one though.

I did remember you figured out "Christmas City" at one point, maybe after a Lehigh reference, so I knew Pennsylvania was in there somewhere....

There was a rink near the Echelon Mall, been there forever (as in, when I was a young rabid Flyers fan) tried "skating" there once in the hope I might see some real live Flyers close up, since they all lived in Voorhees. But most times I crossed the Walt Whitman was to go "down the shore"....

 

[Arriba627]

Random confession -- I can't stop watching Aliona and Bruno's "Lighthouse" FS from Worlds. Ok, no more! :scard7: