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- Nov 12, 2012
Somewhat a rant. Because I have to let it out somewhere instead of combustion internally as I usually do (hence my issues).
Yesterday my younger sister gave me & my mom the biggest life scare probably ever, at least I've never experienced something similar iirc. My mom was supposed to ring her up as a form of get up alarm before 7AM as she had to go to the office for work at 8 (which I find dumb if you ask me, there are other ways and means to get yourself up without bothering others, but it's just me). My mom tries to do it for almost an hour, no response, then she calls me, of course in the middle of crying jag already and worst scenarios about my sister not picking up. I try to call her, no response either. So we are trying to contact her - mind you that she didn't give me or my mom any emergency contact, despite my mom repeatedly urging her to do it (she lives alone, but imho a contact to some neighbor or her landlord would be okay). There goes 9.30AM, still nothing. My mom in shambles and she us supposed to depart for work that day (already considering pulling out of it).
I try to contact her workplace to check if she's there and maybe there's some issue with phones/network (because, ofc, she didn't give us any work contact either...). I somehow managed to call her co-worker and they confirmed my sister is not in the office, nor logged from home either.
So, the last resort - we called cops on her to possibly send an unit to check on her.
She was asleep.
...
I still refuse to take her calls. Because I refuse to cut her slack over her absolute lack of self-awareness, responsibility and self-managenent. She's 26.
The other thing is also about my mom already making her into victim, the poor one in this situation, which I refuse to do. Yes, apparently some medication she takes could cause sleep being this deep (as she had medical consultation after cops' intervention), but...her utter lack of self-observing, reacting upon symptoms makes me MAD.
And mind you - if I pulled something like this, my mom wouldn't have this much of mercy. Meanwhile I'm calling her always when I'm abroad or taking her calls. Always letting her know via message if I'm busy or eg at the dentist and won't be able to take the call etc. Yet I'm always the one who misbehaves.
It just struck me again that my sisters will always win and I just can't win for losing at this point.
Yes, I'm bitter. I haven't had rebellious period or 'wild oats' one, because I couldn't afford to have it. Yet my sisters are acting up regardless of age and nothing changes. Only I am discerned. That goodness I've learned to not take my mom's berating to the heart.
Yesterday my younger sister gave me & my mom the biggest life scare probably ever, at least I've never experienced something similar iirc. My mom was supposed to ring her up as a form of get up alarm before 7AM as she had to go to the office for work at 8 (which I find dumb if you ask me, there are other ways and means to get yourself up without bothering others, but it's just me). My mom tries to do it for almost an hour, no response, then she calls me, of course in the middle of crying jag already and worst scenarios about my sister not picking up. I try to call her, no response either. So we are trying to contact her - mind you that she didn't give me or my mom any emergency contact, despite my mom repeatedly urging her to do it (she lives alone, but imho a contact to some neighbor or her landlord would be okay). There goes 9.30AM, still nothing. My mom in shambles and she us supposed to depart for work that day (already considering pulling out of it).
I try to contact her workplace to check if she's there and maybe there's some issue with phones/network (because, ofc, she didn't give us any work contact either...). I somehow managed to call her co-worker and they confirmed my sister is not in the office, nor logged from home either.
So, the last resort - we called cops on her to possibly send an unit to check on her.
She was asleep.
...
I still refuse to take her calls. Because I refuse to cut her slack over her absolute lack of self-awareness, responsibility and self-managenent. She's 26.
The other thing is also about my mom already making her into victim, the poor one in this situation, which I refuse to do. Yes, apparently some medication she takes could cause sleep being this deep (as she had medical consultation after cops' intervention), but...her utter lack of self-observing, reacting upon symptoms makes me MAD.
And mind you - if I pulled something like this, my mom wouldn't have this much of mercy. Meanwhile I'm calling her always when I'm abroad or taking her calls. Always letting her know via message if I'm busy or eg at the dentist and won't be able to take the call etc. Yet I'm always the one who misbehaves.
It just struck me again that my sisters will always win and I just can't win for losing at this point.
Yes, I'm bitter. I haven't had rebellious period or 'wild oats' one, because I couldn't afford to have it. Yet my sisters are acting up regardless of age and nothing changes. Only I am discerned. That goodness I've learned to not take my mom's berating to the heart.
At best it's a kind of hockey skates, but often half of the blades are just missing or it's kind of a... two storey blade. 
