Another article without gossips and too big assumptions
https://www.gazeta.ru/sport/2020/05/08/a_13076731.shtml
Why don't they give flowers
Escape from the training camp of Polina Shelepen , refusal to go to training for Daria Panenkova , classic leaving in English with notification through the intermediary of Polina Tsurskaya , the same departure in combination with ignoring Evgenia Medvedeva's messages , as well as Alexandra Trusova's refusal to answer calls from coaches - during her Eteri Tutberidze's career saw many options for parting with students.
And in almost all cases, parting with a more or less famous skater turned into a drama.
Tutberidze's words that the student did not even come in to thank for their cooperation and give a bouquet became a famous meme among figure skating fans after Medvedeva's unexpected departure. However, for the first time this phrase was heard seven years ago, after breaking up with the first “shooting” student of Khrustalny - Shelepen.
“It was a shame, from a purely human point of view, that Polina, having made the decision to change her coach, did not consider it necessary at least to come to the rink with a bouquet of flowers and say thank you. She ran away from Novogorsk, and after that I never saw her again. Why not just say thank you for the years together? - the mentor reasoned in an interview with "SE".
Why is the majority of parting with talents going on like this?
Firstly, skaters leaving Khrustalny often explain their decision by the fact that they are dissatisfied with the attitude of the coaching staff - they lack attention, care, understanding or are not comfortable with the manner of communication.
Thus, it is a personal conflict that arises, and not claims to any technical issues, such as a lack of ice (here, Khrustalny is all right). And problems in personal relationships can rarely end with a calm parting and flowers in gratitude.
Here is how Tsurskaya told about the tense communication with her mentor on the Dozhd TV channel:
“If Eteri Georgievna sees that you can do something - even if you show with your whole face that“ not today, I can’t, I don’t want to ”- she will force you.
I began to answer her, maybe not obeying somewhere. Of course, Eteri Georgievna doesn't like it - she starts swearing to put you in your place, to explain to you that you are wrong. "
Periodically emerging serious problems in relations with students are the flip side of an effectively working scheme for achieving success in the Tutberidze group.
The main points of this model are the equal attitude of trainers to all students, without exception, strict discipline, constant work at the limit of possibilities and no concessions, special conditions and close personal attention to an individual athlete. Even if it is one of the main stars.
And if younger skaters only benefit from this equality, then already held athletes see it as a loss for themselves and do not always agree to work on this scheme. Especially until the end of his career. This leads to a loss of understanding, conflicts and, at some point, to a change of coach.
However, Tutberidze herself chose this path and has repeatedly said that she is not going to deviate from it. It bears serious fruit in the form of permanent medals, which means that the game is worth the candle, despite some losses along the way.
The second reason for drama and conflicts after parting is the nature of the mentor herself - very direct and sometimes explosive. You should not expect standard diplomatic phrases from her about the fact that transitions are a normal phenomenon in sports and that both sides have gained invaluable experience.
Tutberidze always speaks out as honestly as possible and does not hide his emotions about farewell. Demonstration of the correspondence with Medvedeva on the air of Channel One as proof that the girl ignored her messages is the quintessence of this utmost honesty.
On the one hand, this is good - the mentor does not deceive anyone and actually signs that she is sincerely worried about the departure of the students, despite the image of the impregnable snow queen.
On the other hand, it seems that this is what makes some students afraid to come to Tutberidze and report their decision personally. The potential reaction of a strict mentor is more intimidating than failure to comply with the ethical side of the breakup. Therefore, there are so few visits with flowers and so many questions from the former coach. And, accordingly, drama.